hey, so you don't have to reply if you don't want to, but i need some advice.
context;
about 8 months ago at a football game, a male acquaintance stated that he 'wanted to kiss a girl' and charged at me. he pulled me into a hug wayyy too close to my boobs, and he's done things recently like grabbing my wrists for extended periods of time and putting me in chokeholds. to say, in the least, i obviously find it abusive and on the groping side of things. a male friend of mine also said he'd called me 'an obnoxious shithead' over a Discord call.
a couple of guy friends in my class were chatting with me, and the subject of said acquaintance came up. i told them of how he kind of groped me at the football game, but i meant it more jokingly than anything. i guess it was hard to tell.
fastforward to now, and my female friend tells me that he didn't know he made me hella uncomfortable and that he'd seen me as rude. one of my guys friends told her about the conversation.
and i'll admit it- i was/am incredibly standoffish torwards him.
she wanted me to apologize, i only want to make her happy.
so i did over text, and he said we'd continue talking tomorrow but he told me to 'watch what i say'.
i am incredibly nervous. i have had unpleasant experiences in the past with unwanted physical contact and he could easily overpower me if something went wrong. i am afraid of him, but i want to set things right.
is there any advice you all can spare? thank you.