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Pehle samajh mein nhi aata thha... What 'daddy issues' are.
Ab pata chala ki I'm the worst case of having them.
Not my fault.
Not my mom's fault.
I fucking hate how it feels.
I spent years thinking why my father couldn't love me, now I get why.
The fault was him itself.
That man never deserved a family or love.
He just wanted to care for his 'family'- that included his mom, dad, and his brothers' families.
He didn't give a damn about his own wife and daughter.
He didn't support my mom during her pregnancy.
He wasn't pleased to have me.
He's breaking now, and now- the family he chose- his joint family, isn't supporting much, he doesn't have a job anymore.
And the FAMILY he gave up- me and my mom, we're thriving with my maternal grandparents and my mom's family.
Not out of pity, but pure and unconditional love. Mom has a job.
A good one, and though my parents don't live together anymore (they haven't for the past 8 years), they're not divorced, that's how my mom is keeping him on the desperate end of the edge.
He wasn't abusive or violent, but his choices led him to this.
We haven't talked in a year, and I'm so fucking proud about it.
I hope life gives him the worst it can.