sevensweetsaturn
life is hating me anyone else?
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sevensweetsaturn
part 2 of the public writing about consent psa:
~no under 18 should be with a 25+ unless it is EXPLICITLY warned at the start of the book. in general, it is a big nono (what does a 24 year old and 14 year old have in common, wtf?) however for cases such as 17 and 25 then it really does depend. fics are very different to real life, but that is something to be wary about writing
~writing relationships about underage people irl - why. why would you sexualize a real life person who is underage? these are real people who deserve boundaries against that.
in summary - LABEL and WARN as well as pls be clear if there is a lack of consent.
thank you xxx
sevensweetsaturn
okay i think there needs to be a public psa about consent and warnings because in 90% of cases, it's not the writing that's problematic, it's the lack of proper warnings/acknowledgement that is NOT okay, and there are too many people who might not realise how harmful it can be. im in a couple fandoms across a few websites (only comment on here tho), but this message goes out to some fandoms more than others. please can we share info about consent guysss
some definitions:
consent - a clear, non influenced decision vocalized/clearly signaled if agreed beforehand, to anything. any aspect of relationships or crossing personal space.
under the influence - this means someone doesn't have full capacity to consent because they have consumed some substances which impact their mental ability to make informed decisions
dubious consent - when one person doesn't have capacity to consent but the other person doesnt know that
enthusiastic consent - all people are capacitated to, and are signaling clearly that they want to do something and agree to it - this is what we SHOULD be aiming for in real life.
~if someone is in under the influence of alcohol, that is not full consent
~if someone is aware that the other person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs (or things like charms and potions in magical realms), then that is assault
~if someone ISN'T aware that the other person is under the influence, that is dubious consent as opposed to assault
~if there are power dynamics (e.g. boss and employee, teacher and student), then there could be an element of coercion within any relationship, so that is something that needs to be worked through with boundaries, e.g. in a fic it could mean no physical intimacy until post the student graduates (whereas we know in real life there are laws in a lot of countries preventing power dynamic relationships unless they were established before someone went into that role)
~with power dynamics, huge age gaps need to be labeled as such.
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sevensweetsaturn
i miss the eras era time of my life when i would watch a livestream and read fanfics all the time, i miss the post eras tour era where i would write sososo much, not even posting most of it here. but yeah, that era is gone, and yes im happier than i was, but yeah, ive lost a part of me. the writing i write now isnt really something to be shared but i feel grateful i still have the outlet in that capacity, even though nobody else can read it. that was a v confusing life update, im alive <3
sevensweetsaturn
@Lalainad1301 same here with the whole beginning to write fanfic here bc i was forced into mh treatment. and i would always be waiting for you to update oopsies. im also a lot better in quite a few respects (and doing a little bit worse in other aspects but that's just stuff that happens as you grow old, from a young teen to adult). and yes, im always rereading my faves haha. i really feel you with how pointless writing for here feels like - i have other outlets and ways i write which obvs aren't cohesive so i don't post them here, but they help me cope with my emotions so much than writing here. yes, there was a time where writing here really helped me, but ultimately, right now doing stuff purely for myself helps me the most. especially given that right now i have NO clue to the extent of which i am or am not sane (for context i thought i was doing MUCH better and even went to the doctors to discharge myself...well let me say that looking back, INSISTING to be discharged from weekly mental health checkups is NOT a good sign). and that's exactly what i mean by missing that era, whilst the era wasn't the best of our lives, i still miss reading your books but im so happy you're doing a lot better
sevensweetsaturn
@newromantics_23 the cramming homework is so real!! i deffo have tonnes more but even with my spare time a lot of my fave authors don't update bc they're busy with life, so i end up rereading my faves haha. and i find it so hard to find good new fics to start bc the amount of times i read a description and think "oooh that's gonna be good" and then realise that it was last updated 3 years ago, or even worse, ai slop. i feel you with the no energy to read, write or comment :(
Lalainad1301
I thought of this the other day. I began writing because I was dragged back to treatment for my eating disorder and didn’t know how to cope so I made a fanfic. I fell in love with reading here and I used to WRITE SOOOO MUCH! I relate so much to what you say: I’m a lot better than I was back then, but I miss writing that much and being excited about new chapters. I usually reread my fav stories because I miss them so much. Every time I try to write I feel like it’s not good and like no one is really reading, so there’s no point
sevensweetsaturn
on indefinite hiatus since i have exams i GOTTA pass, that's all i came here to say <3 love everyone <3
sevensweetsaturn
if anyone wants a boyfriend in return for a pit ticket for harry styles then let me know!! im selling my boyfriend. well mannered, gets on with parents, brings me flowers and thoughtful gifts, generally good model of boyfriend, then im selling him for however much it costs for a pit ticket. please let me know im so desperate for harry tickets and i know ticketmaster is gonna be horrible with dynamic prices like last time so that's why im selling lots of stuff also v sleep deprived but waiting for the new single because yes yes yes xoxo
sevensweetsaturn
update for everyone - didn't get tickets yayyy they were all too expensive. but we okay with the ono being filmed for netflix bc now i have another cute concert movie to add to my rotation
thealb4tross
ticket master is going to be terrible for the fact of residencies aghwgw, anyway single dropping in eight mins and i hope you win the war !!
sevensweetsaturn
harry is back this is not a drill
angieactsswiftly
Hey, thank you for your support on my one-shot book <3
sevensweetsaturn
new broken glass chapter out! <3
sevensweetsaturn
i love meeheehee bc wdym on a random sunday the "hey kids, spelling is fun" easter egg lyric (which tay removed once the lover release date was announced) got added BACK on streaming? so whimsy i love love LOVE (also i say this everytime but updates soon)
ZoLaniSwiftie13
@sevensweetsaturn I heard those were on apple but I'm not sure #justisforspotifygirlys