i love seven

sorry to anyone who was waiting for an update to any of my stories, but honestly they all are gonna be on indefinite pause if not forever pause.  if anybody wants to know the plot/what happens next to any of the stories then lmk and i'll text u the plot but other than that i dont think im gonna be going back to writing here <3

Hiiii

happy 2 years to the album of my life, ttpd <3

life is hating me anyone else?

part 2 of the public writing about consent psa:
          
          ~no under 18 should be with a 25+ unless it is EXPLICITLY warned at the start of the book.  in general, it is a big nono (what does a 24 year old and 14 year old have in common, wtf?) however for cases such as 17 and 25 then it really does depend.  fics are very different to real life, but that is something to be wary about writing
          ~writing relationships about underage people irl - why.  why would you sexualize a real life person who is underage?  these are real people who deserve boundaries against that.  
          
          in summary - LABEL and WARN as well as pls be clear if there is a lack of consent.
          thank you xxx

okay i think there needs to be a public psa about consent and warnings because in 90% of cases, it's not the writing that's problematic, it's the lack of proper warnings/acknowledgement that is NOT okay, and there are too many people who might not realise how harmful it can be.  im in a couple fandoms across a few websites (only comment on here tho), but this message goes out to some fandoms more than others.  please can we share info about consent guysss
          
          some definitions:
          consent - a clear, non influenced decision vocalized/clearly signaled if agreed beforehand, to anything.  any aspect of relationships or crossing personal space.
          under the influence - this means someone doesn't have full capacity to consent because they have consumed some substances which impact their mental ability to make informed decisions
          dubious consent - when one person doesn't have capacity to consent but the other person doesnt know that
          enthusiastic consent - all people are capacitated to, and are signaling clearly that they want to do something and agree to it - this is what we SHOULD be aiming for in real life.
          
          ~if someone is in under the influence of alcohol, that is not full consent
          ~if someone is aware that the other person is under the influence of alcohol or drugs (or things like charms and potions in magical realms), then that is assault
          ~if someone ISN'T aware that the other person is under the influence, that is dubious consent as opposed to assault
          ~if there are power dynamics (e.g. boss and employee, teacher and student), then there could be an element of coercion within any relationship, so that is something that needs to be worked through with boundaries, e.g. in a fic it could mean no physical intimacy until post the student graduates (whereas we know in real life there are laws in a lot of countries preventing power dynamic relationships unless they were established before someone went into that role)
          ~with power dynamics, huge age gaps need to be labeled as such.
          ~

i miss the eras era time of my life when i would watch a livestream and read fanfics all the time, i miss the post eras tour era where i would write sososo much, not even posting most of it here.  but yeah, that era is gone, and yes im happier than i was, but yeah, ive lost a part of me.  the writing i write now isnt really something to be shared but i feel grateful i still have the outlet in that capacity, even though nobody else can read it.  that was a v confusing life update, im alive <3

on indefinite hiatus since i have exams i GOTTA pass, that's all i came here to say <3 love everyone <3

if anyone wants a boyfriend in return for a pit ticket for harry styles then let me know!! im selling my boyfriend. well mannered, gets on with parents, brings me flowers and thoughtful gifts, generally good model of boyfriend, then im selling him for however much it costs for a pit ticket. please let me know im so desperate for harry tickets and i know ticketmaster is gonna be horrible with dynamic prices like last time so that's why im selling lots of stuff also v sleep deprived but waiting for the new single because yes yes yes xoxo

harry is back this is not a drill