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I was gonna rant but I really don't know if I'll get myself across like I mean to so I won't post that rant. But it's as simple as "know your place as a fan."
This should be CLEAAAAR and if it isn't then idk what the fuck is going on with your brain. Don't label idols, don't diagnose them with mental illnesses unless confirmed, don't tell them what to do unless they're doing something harmful, don't expect them to always tell you about their private lives off-camera, don't sexualize them, don't ship them with anyone, don't infantilize them, JUST DON'T. LITERALLY AND SIMPLY DON'T DO THAT SHIT.
You're not them? Shut up.
You're not their bestie? Shut up.
You're not their relative? Shut up.
You're not their group mate? Shut up.
You're not their significant other? Shut up.
You're a fan? Yes, that's what you are. So your place is merely to give support to your idols, make them happy and successful, and educate them if they mess something up. That's it. Simple.