@Solunastra Being sefcoucious isn't your fault, at all. once again, it comes to society, it's the reason to it. since little, we forged us an image of being perfect, smart, pretty and more. but think about it, what is perfection? no tthe perfection of today, but the perfection that was what it was at the root of it all. my answer is, ouselves. we are all different, we are all perfect.
imperfectly, perfect.
beign depressed is also a stage of life (you might not believe me since im depressed myself but i will still say it). you either make it out alive, or die. be it in the inside, or really dying (suicide). now sometimes you can have resurrection, die inside, be lost, question your whole existence, then find your way back to your body. it can be a long process but that's good. if you go too fast, you'll crash too hard.
everybody needs someone to protect them, just like everybody needs someone or something to protect. the weakest one gives a reason for the strongest one to fight for something. while the strongest one helps and supports the weaker one from falling.
narcissim isn't a bad thing, depends who is being a narcissist. you need to find your own values, some may call it egoistic, pretentious and many more. but in this world, you need to be that way at least a little in order to survive in this world full of fake images