sukibenders

No, you actually aren't entitled to Black people's pain, especially if you want us to sensationalize it but never view us as human enough to feel it. To feel sadness, anger, grief, to be alive. Cyrus Carmack Belton is being ripped to shreds in the media, denied his youth as a teen and adultified to justify his murder, while supporters of him are met with racial bigotry. Adding to this, the sentencing following Karmelo Anthony's case felt like another blow. That is the reality that many Black people have to face, and this is just one example. Imagine going through this constantly, for decades, and then having people demand you exhaust yourself proving you have a reason to feel that way. It's tiring.

sukibenders

No, you actually aren't entitled to Black people's pain, especially if you want us to sensationalize it but never view us as human enough to feel it. To feel sadness, anger, grief, to be alive. Cyrus Carmack Belton is being ripped to shreds in the media, denied his youth as a teen and adultified to justify his murder, while supporters of him are met with racial bigotry. Adding to this, the sentencing following Karmelo Anthony's case felt like another blow. That is the reality that many Black people have to face, and this is just one example. Imagine going through this constantly, for decades, and then having people demand you exhaust yourself proving you have a reason to feel that way. It's tiring.

sukibenders

Francesca really is a Bridgerton with her dramatic self, because wdym "Scottland was becoming a touch overcrowded"? Girl, you got acres of land and a CASTLE! Michaela highkey had every right to be fed up with her because why is my presence cramping the vibes, but not your sister's? Francesca, I expect groveling by some point.

sukibenders

These new Descendants movies causing people to loose ancient (not really) text. The VKs and other Isle kids had dyed hair, often as a way to symbolize their connection to their parents (similar to how gangs wear specific colors, this was intentional). However, the Auradon kids didn't because there was no need, heck, even their clothing didn't always rep their parents. I could maybe get behind Chloe (I think that's her name) having blue hair if she dyed it following Mal becoming queen, but Cinderella? That makes no sense (and they did my girl Brandy dirty with that wig like-).

sukibenders

@ipseities you know, you right, there is no descendants 4 in ba sing se.
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ipseities

@sukibenders | descendants 4 never happened wdym…
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sukibenders

You guys ever read a fic, and the fc used is poc right...but the further you read, the more it seems like the opposite? And I'm not talking about fics like GOT/HOTD (tho debatable) and Star Wars, where the characters race wouldn't have "much" impact. No, I'm talking about fics like Stranger Things, Marvel/DC, etcetera, where it would matter. Like you know what I mean?

sukibenders

@ipseities and it's even more atrocious when the setting the fic is following actively has conversations about race (even if albeit messy) like, again, OBX but also TVD where I've seen a lot of fics have a biracial fc (often Black or Asian), who's always buddy buddy with the yte characters but hardly meets any other poc. Mind you, said yte characters will have shady past with their treatment of other poc, but it's never addressed or they'll get infantilized. Like it's such a headache.
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sukibenders

@pearlsrot like 'as described' was right there or, if they wanted graphics and stuff, specify that they're just a placeholder but not an actual representation of the character. Bc these people will use this rhetoric for replacing problematic actors (especially in Marvel), but can't do it to be poc friendly? Make it make sense.
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ipseities

@sukibenders | this!! it’s a thing to not want to write black ocs (or not knowing how to write them properly—though they can ask) but use them as tokens just to erase their black heritage in your own writing in favor of their white or other ethnicity is weird. just don’t write black ocs at this point omd
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sukibenders

Low key (highkey) a lot Pitt defenders, specifically around s2, were giving misogynistic vibes when ever they would defend the poor writing that season by saying "Well this isn't Grey's/go watch Grey's Anatomy then!" as to be insulting. As if that is one because at least one show, even with having a particular main character being the focus from time to time, still new how to handle the storylines of others in meaningful and entertaining ways, while also tackling issues like race and misogyny better as well (though it took a little time, they didn't drag their heels through the mud). I can't say the same for The Pitt tho...

sukibenders

Like imagine throwing Grey's at someone like it's an insult...a show that still has a huge following and is still beloved. It's not lost on me how some Pitt fans, most who are men or just male centered, often act as if they're superior for liking one show over the other (and not loosers) and love to infantilize Grey's fans bc it lacks accuracy (ignoring the Pitts accuracy problems like the plague tho), almost in the same way men hate on women and girls for how they react to their fave artists...whilst acting the same, if not worse, during sports season. You get what I'm saying?
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sukibenders

Actually, yes, bad people can make good and empathetic bodies of work whilst still being terrible people. Their morality doesn't always necessarily impact their work, and it's really important to remember that. Largely because, at least to me, it feels like the people who say this feed into the idea that bad people can't do good things, or create things that leave a (positive) impression because they are uniquely evil. Think of how a person will do something horrendous and someone will go, "Well they're ugly anyway," even though they aren't, and it's because of that factor they were able to get away with things for so long. The same case works here, in a way. These people can be terrible but make good bodies of work. It's just up to us how we engage with it.

depaysement

@sukibenders oh my god thank you
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I feel like now, as of late, one big issue within the queer community is how overly obsessive people are with labels to the point where they take it out on others. A part of this also ties into how some people view dating and sex as being crucial to one's identity and little room for anything else, which is why, in my opinion, so many are quick to be ace/arophobic and nosey about bisexuals dating history. How does this tie into labels? Many will be quick to be dismissive towards bisexuals and, really, other queer individuals if their dating history doesn't match some randomly made standard to prove them as being valid (eg. bi celebs always have their sexuality either dismissed or watched like a hawk).

sukibenders

*haven't
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sukibenders

I also think this is what can make it hard for Trans people as well, especially those who don't/have transitioned, because outside of already facing scrutiny from straight people, now some in the community question their sexuality because they don't fit in their standards. Here's a thing, nobody owes you their sexuality, nor do they have to subscribe to your standards just to be seen as being valid. Them being queer is enough, especially if they're comfortable with how they identify. They don't have to meet your standards because, regardless, your opinion doesn't matter. Sexuality is fluid and spectrum, idk where people forgot about that. My definition of bisexuality differs from others, and while, bc of that, some might say I fit more into being pansexual, bisexual is what I identify as. It's what I'm comfortable with, and no one can change that but me, same for being ace.
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See the hate and heavy criticism that the Black girls on Love Island get isn't new to me, but it's still extremely sad to see it coming from other Black women. Like, I'll never forget how some were getting mad at Olandria for being with Nic, saying Taylor was better even though he was dogging her out the whole season. Then some of them would go "Well, I hope the next person out there will show her love," ready to have this dark skin Black woman waiting to be shown love, as if that's not a weird cycle to put here through. Now, with this season, so many are getting mad at Trinity for not picking Sean, even though that man only pulled her for a chat last minute versus her actual connection.

_naomiwrites

It’s just pissing me off. I’m so tired. As a black woman life is just so exhausting. All. The. Time.
            
            I’m tired of the racism, colorism, the misogynoir and biases in general and shows like Love island have been getting away with it for years! Not just the US version, but especially UK. 
            
            People online will pull the most random stuff out of their ssa’ to blame all the black women on the show for being “terrible people.” Forgetting mind you that this is reality tv and that the whole point of this specific show is that we’re shown a completely different narrative than what happens to make things more interesting for viewership.
            
            Shows like big brother where there’s a live you can literally join to watch everyone at all points in time are the only ones where we can completely criticize individuals for the beliefs because we’re seeing EVERYTHING. I’m not saying we can’t necessarily do the same with Love Island but I am saying discernment is important, especially critical thinking skills.
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"He was just being performative," if he was, he would've/could've said something anti Black, bc as a lot of yall show, you don't like Black people. But it's really interesting how someone, especially a man, can go out and say he loves Black women and holds primary interests in them, and people will instantly paint him as a liar or try to poke holes in his words. Hmm, now class, what does that sound like? Right, misogynior.
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They'll drag her connection with Bryce through the mud because of the age gap...but be okay with her playing step mommy for an ex cop with no job waiting for him? Make it make sense. With Aniya and KC, it's weird seeing some paint KC's words as being unserious, like he's doing to much by showing his Black partner her worth and love, even though that's technically what these same people were asking for last season! It's really interesting seeing how so many within the community will immediately call a man corny for showing Black women love, but never want to unpack that. But I'm supposed to believe the people saying this care about Black women? Sure, Jan.
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