Why? That's the only question I ask when I say someone complaining about a family member or someone else in general. I asked that person and then say "Well, What if they died?" It makes them stop for a second and really think. I do ask and say those things because I know what's like to live a harder life then average. And I aslo know what's like to complain about someone and then the next day found out they are dead. Everything you complain about with stay with you, it eats you up knowing everything you said about that person and iy also makes you think about what you should have said. Of course, everybody complains, but a real person would see what's infront of them before it's too late.