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"Lose yourself in books, in art, in the haze of new horizons. Lose yourself in curiosity, in
          knowledge, in passion. Lose yourself in feeling it all; lose yourself in the world, in the stories and the lessons it has to teach you, but never lose yourself in love; never lose yourself in another person. 
          
          You are your own home
          - please don't ever forget that."

"Dear Mum,
          I can't help but wonder if all of your sad years, would have been different if you met another man. Although I would not be here without that fate,
          I just want you to know; I would give you back my life, so you could have yours. "

"If a man expects a woman to be an angel in his life, 
          He must first create heaven for her.
          Angels don't live in hell."

"some memories never leave your bones. like salt in the sea; they become part of you. and you carry them."

Eldest Daughter's Curse
          
          We all make mistakes, 
          but hers always receives the harshest punishments.
          We all make mistakes, 
          but her apologies are not enough.
          We all make mistakes, 
          but hers are made to be the hardest to learn from.
          We all make mistakes,
          but hers remind her that love is conditional

"Sevgili Anneciğim, 
          Binlerce kez açıldım, 
          binlerce kez kapandım yokluğunda 
          Kocaman bir dağ lalesi gibi 
          Ve kapkara göbeğini dünyaya fırlatacakmış gibi duran.
          Şimdi mucizevi bir yerdeyim 
          Muc'ın ucuz evinde 
          Sanki mürekkebi rutubet olan bir kalem Duvarlara hep senin resmini çiziyor 
          di'li geçmiş zamanda birçok resim, 
          Hep gülümsüyorsun 
          Aklının ortasında mavi bir yıldız varmış gibi 
          Ve o yıldız karanlık bir şubat akşamında Durmadan soluyormuş gibi 
          Hatırlar mısın?
          Mavi saçlı bir tanrı gibi severdim Burdur Gölü'nü
          O göl şimdi içimde kocaman bir anne ölüsü.
          Vişne bahçeleriyle dolu,
          Neşeli bir şehre benzerdi senin sesin.
          Bazen ölmek istiyorum
          Beni yeniden doğurman için iri, ekşi bir vişne tanesi gibi."

"daralan gecede boş yere aramak sevinci, beraberken acıyan, ayrılınca neden böyle çekici?"

"The hate for your father is so strong because you weren't looking at him as a daughter but as a woman, you saw him through your mother's eyes."

"Teach your daughters to say no. Teach your daughters to raise their voices. Teach your daughters to make waves. To value safety over politeness. To yell fire instead of help. Teach your daughters to feel comfortable in their own bodies. Teach your daughters to live without shame. Teach your daughters to hit first. To bite back. To burn the world down when they are mistreated. Teach your daughters to out their abusers. To be deadly serious. To be dangerous. To be sure. To know what they want. Teach your daughters to take a stand. To be bold. To be brave. Teach your daughters to believe in a better world.
          
          And then tell them they deserve one.
          
          Say, you do not have to suffer like I have suffered.
          
          Say, the legacy of girlhood does not have to be one of pain."

"onun bütün hayatı sadece uçurumdan kaçıştır, sadece derinliğe doğru bir koşudur, korkunç, acılı, kalbini sıkıştıran, soluk soluğa bir kovalamacadır."