@vvhiteraven you would cry... not because someone is gone, but because you find out that you can still smile with them gone and while that may make hurt more you realize that you can be amused by the world again even if it takes awhile... this allows you to laugh with everyone else their about the deceased, to joke and swap stories, to try the food and then when you go off on your own and you're alone when you ponder and wonder the big why, you'll find it a tab bit harder to alienate yourself from the others that lost somebody when the funeral was fun, and so that is why for me at the least, the most important part of the funeral is the first three letters; f, u, and n.