@rlizstfns that makes sense too. and to like, add onto that a little, even if that person cant necessarily give you something physically, i think that maybe how they make you feel around them is giving them something too. like say someone always laughs at your jokes, they make you feel funny and you want them in your life. or say someone always asks you for help, they'll make you feel needed and you'll keep helping them because of that feeling (unless theyre just using you, then it isnt the same). people are weird, cruel, and selfish when it comes down to it. i really feel like our theories are similar in a lot of ways, and its kind of sad that many dont see things this way. because like, either way, youre getting used by someone.