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being with someone who has avoidant attachment is like chasing a shadow. no matter how fast you run, how much effort you put in, you never actually catch them. one moment they’re close, warm, almost giving you hope, and the next, they pull away like you just asked them to sign a fucking lifetime contract.
n the worst part? they don’t even hate you. they just hate intimacy. they hate feeling vulnerable. so they push you away while still keeping you close enough to not fully lose you. and like a fcking idiot, you stay n convincing yourself that if you love them enough, they’ll eventually let you in.
spoiler alert: they won’t. because it’s not about you, it’s about their own fears and baggage. and no matter how much patience, love, or effort you pour in, you will never be enough to fix what they won’t even acknowledge. it’s a losing game, and the only way to win is to stop playing
