i read somewhere that a relationship was successful even if it ended if it taught you how to love, how to take care of someone else, how to open up to someone. so it might be helpful to walk down memory lane and see where you grew with him. he was part of your journey and maybe he gave you something that helped you develop.
and yeah, some time the memories will fade and you will be left with seldom remembering them but it won't hurt that much anymore. i promise you that.
and i am sure you meant something to him, don't doubt your part of the relationship. but please don't stop where you're standing, you gotta keep going. „if you're going through hell, keep going. why would you stop in hell?“
there is going to be a guy one day who won't fade but who will love you wholly. and til then please love yourself and remember that i am here, alright? i'm your number one supporter.
one last thing: sometimes not getting closure is better. i read a poem somewhere where it said that they are the kind of person who if they got bitten by a snake would run after the poisonous snake and try to ask them why it did that. why did it bite them? why would it do that? what did they do wrong to deserve something like that? and that's what will kill you because the snake will just keep biting and sometimes there is no reason for that, it's just their nature. so don't run after the snake but get yourself a plaster, a warm place to rest and look after the wound from time to time to make sure it heals. there are snakes, flo, but there is no use in trying to make them reassure you that they didn't bite you because you are a bad person or because you did something wrong. just keep going. wounds heal, time passes.
okay i wrote you a whole paragraph lol i really hope you can do something with it. xx heather
