Islam is my Life

HARAAAM BRO!

The last topic was about Marriage. So for this one I thought I will do it about love, since that is a part of marriage and something the youth is confused about. OKAY, as a human being, I had these periods too where I thought I loved someone. I was thinking about that person the whole time and just daydreamed about everything. Well, I want to start with haraam. You know, something is haraam when you can choose to do it or not. Many people say that love is haraam, but it isn’t. Why not? cause you CAN’T choose if you want to fall in love or not. When will something haraam come out of it? When you play your actions on love. Look, you can love someone. You can’t choose when and who you want to love. Love finds you, you don’t find it. Love isn’t haraam, but it could be a way to actually DO haraam. If you act on it and actually try to impress the person you love, and you start a relationship, then it will be haraam. It is a test. Love is a test. Allah will maybe let you love to see if you are actually going to do haraam stuff with it, or if you are just gonna leave it and just love that person. Or more beautiful, ask that persons hand in marriage. Especially pubers have this problem. When you are in the puberty, you will find yourself attracted to the opposite sex. Maybe even to the same haha. ANYWAY, so you fell in love. And since you are a puber, you see all these people have relationships and you want it actually too. Cause it feels nice, being with him or her feels nice. You see all these people touching each other. Romance. It would look all nice. And you would crave for it. You would want to be loved. You would want a fairytale on your own too. Its okay to want all these things. But with your husband or wife. Not with a boyfriend or girlfriend. I had a test too, a love test. I had a boyfriend when I was younger, and it was not all romance and touchy-touchy. I mean I’ve never hold a boys hand. But I acted wrong, I wasn’t smart enough to think that it is haraam. I ended up in a relationship and let me tell you. I regret being in a relationship, but I don’t regret the fact that I’ve been in one. If I hadn’t been in that relationship, I wouldn’t be the person I am now. He really changed me. Not directly, indirectly. Because of him I started to think about haraam and halaal stuff and actually could make the difference between it. Before, I couldn’t. I’ve learned so much from that relationship I don’t even know all the things I’ve learned. So I know that Allah wanted to teach me something with that relationship, and I am pretty damn sure I’ve learned it. Please guys, relationships are haraam. I know how the attraction is to a relationship when you love someone. But don’t act on it. If I think about the fact that MY future husband has had girlfriends, I would be sad. So if you don’t want your husband or wife to have a past in relationships, than dont have it yourself too. If you really can’t stay away from relationships and you want help, ask Allah. Ask Allah to guide you. Ask him to help you and to let you know what’s wrong and right. If I didn’t do that, I know I wouldn’t be this person. I wouldn’t be the person who told you all of this. Know that Allah will always forgive you if you regret it and do tawbe. Don’t be scared, it will be alright. When something bad happens to me I always think literally 'what wanted Allah to teach me with this?'.. Please guys. I wouldn’t want that I am not the first one who touched my future husband. And know that Allah said, the good people are for the good people and the bad people are for the bad. Because of that I have always this competition in my head with my future husband. When I don’t feel like praying I think like 'if I don’t pray, maybe Allah will give me someone who doesn’t pray too' and that really helps me to get up and to pray. If you don’t want anything, don’t do it yourself. Love, just love.. But don’t let it turn into something haraam