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9th question

QUESTION: HOW DO YOU COMFORT YOURSELF? AS YOU SAID THAT YOU STARTED COMFORTING YOURSELF WHEN YOU DIDN'T GET IT FROM OTHERS. WHY DO WE FEEL THE NEED TO BE COMFORTED?

ANSWER:

Comfort.

It is actually something that i have been wanting to get from others, i guess.

Until last year i guess i always thought that someone would comfort me in some way to take my even a little bit pain away, there would be someone who would make me laugh while i would be a crying mess.

I guess i always thought that i never got that someone, who would comfort me.

But I was so wrong.........

I actually dig in the times when i was a crying mess, in depression, in a mess of thoughts, in frustration.

When i recalled the moments....

I actually saw someone who helped me, who comforted me.

It was ME, myself.

I comforted myself.

I know i would sound stupid to some of you but it is true for me.

It was me, myself.

I was the one who when no-one comforted me the way i wanted, give myself the comfort i needed.

I used to cry, cry my frustration out, then being alone i was with my thoughts, i used that alone time, the space given to me as a time to look for what the situation was.

I comforted myself by thinking of the possibilities, outcome of the situation, results and then i think there are many others that cope with these situations.

As i guess you know my favorite dialogue to say, If they can cope with it then we can too.

I would always say to myself that i should ignore what happened for a time-being and focus on it when needed. 

To say we have many problems to think about, but if we keep thinking about them when not needed too, then i guess we are wasting our precious one lifetime.

Ignore the situation for as long as it is not needed and enjoy the moments with your loved ones and cherish them.

Because problems, pain , miseries, heartbreak will never stop waltzing into our life.

We just need to learn to ignore those things when they aren't required.

And how i comforted myself, it is because i was the one who cried and i was the one who stopped crying without anyone's help. So it is me who stopped myself from crying.

So, i comforted myself.

And i guess you all also comfort yourself this way when no-one does.

It is just that i realized that i can comfort myself like i have been doing until now.

You can realize it too and think that maybe actually you don't need to be comforted by others when you can do it yourself, when you have been doing that all this time.

We don't need to make others so important in our life that without them we can't be happy or what not.

Make yourself important, most important in your life, if you can stay happy yourself then why would you need others.

We always tend to make a mistake making someone else so important in our life that when they waltz out their way out of our lives, we are left broken.

Why are you giving the strings, the decisions, your life's thread in someone else's hand.

When you know that they can be broken too.

It is you who can trust on the most.

Everyone can leave each other, even sometimes family.

You can leave yourself too when you feel depressed and helpless in theses situations, your mind will be blank. 

We can't trust someone, even if we know they are really trustworthy but do you ever think that your and their relation can be broken too. 

There are many insecurities in us that keep us on the bay of your life.

But, if you can ignore them and leave them for some other time, then why can't you leave the pain, misery, the situation for a time-being till it is needed.

If  we want we can comfort ourselves, to say we already have done it all these times, we just need to acknowledge it.

And to why do we feel the need to be comforted is because i guess we want a certain someone that you want to be there for you and we i guess think are those who will truly be there with us. In hopes of finding that certain someone we feel the need to be comforted.

*I know some of you would disagree but it's okay and sorry to all if you felt offended by any of my words. Hope you founded what you wanted to.*