Influencer Apologies

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by _Ommy_

by _Ommy_

Concept: Some twat comes up to you and kicks you in the shin so hard that you're in immense pain. The dude apologises, but you don't want to accept the apology because you've seen no change in this person and they're clearly doing it because everybody else is calling them an asshole. Also, you're still hurt and trying to heal from the pain.

Some bitch you don't even know comes over and accepts the apology for you even though you clearly don't want to.

Question: How do you feel?

Concept: Your favourite influencer has said something incredibly racist/homophobic/transphobic/ableist etc. Considering the fact that you're a part of these communities, you feel extremely hurt and disrespected. You decide to revoke your support for this person (as you rightfully should).

Days later, you find out that the person has released an apology for their awful behaviour. You decide that you still won't forgive them or support them because you're still very much disappointed with them and don't feel welcome in the community. You want to see change and them become proactive before you decide to support them again (which is within your right as a living, breathing homosapien.)

Someone who's community wasn't affected by the influencer's disrespectful actions speaks on behalf of everybody else and says that this person is forgiven and had redeemed themselves. They start debating with people who have chosen not to forgive the influencer on why they should, completely disregarding the fact that you can't put a time limit on how long someone is hurt.

Question: How do you feel?

I'm almost certain that I've made my point further up but just to reinstate it: if someone has done something disrespectful to a community that you do not belong to, it is NOT YOUR FUCKING JOB to accept whatever apology or dumbass statement that they put out.

People can be hurt for however long they are hurt for. They can feel like an apology from that person isn't sufficient and that's completely valid. Do not harass them. Do not speak on their behalf.

If you want to continue supporting an influencer, then be free to do so but not after properly researching the harm that they may have caused. Certain things mean more to some people than to others, so even if you are in the community that's been affected, it is still not your job to accept the apology on behalf of everyone else. Especially if the large majority of people are still upset.

That being said, I don't support anybody being sent death threats at all based on anything they've done. Let's not stoop to that level, shall we? K thx.

Apart from that, have a good day and stay golden.

Love you xx