What is love? If you ask a lot of people, they won’t tell you exactly what it is. Most people will give you an example of love or tell a story about love but not what it is. I don’t know what it is either, Love is Love and you can’t change that. People may change the meaning, hide the meaning, replace the meaning but to me love is… a decision.
You question me!? Well let me tell you a story. A mother is about to give birth to a child. After nine months of back problems, cravings and a growing stomach she goes through one more painful moment. Childbirth is one of the most painful things you can feel (according to women) but she goes through it anyway. It’s a healthy little boy! The doctor cleans him up, wraps him up and hands him to her. She holds her little baby crying and says I LOVE you.
She didn’t think about all the pain she is going to go through. She didn’t think of all the money she was going to pay. She didn’t think of any of the bad that can happen. Then and there she DECIDED that she was going to love this child, her child, through everything that can and will happen. No matter what she will love him forever.
Love is a decision. No matter what anyone has told you, no matter what the movie says, no matter what any boy or girl says to you. Love is a decision, one that you should and must stick by. And that’s where the other “meanings” come in.
When you don’t stick to your decision of love, that’s when it becomes a feeling. Feelings come and go, they falter they die and they are strong. But this emotion will fail. Anyone who says “I feel that love will always keep us together” is a fool (no offense). You can last a long time with this feeling and it should be in a relationship. But if it is the only thing then… it will fail. We are human and our feelings are finite. (Not going to last forever)
If you don’t agree with this then look at the divorce rates. They are high! Sadly high, pitifully high, marriage turned from a union between two people to a way to steal money. Even the ones that seems genuine. The ones that you look at and say ‘boy! They really love each other’ they fail because they were built solely on the FEELING of love not a decision, not a choice, not a promise, none of that! Feels will fade eventually, it is in our nature. I’ve found one thing that could make the “feeling” of love work. It is to find someone you continually fall in love with.
Now love as a tool. Sad day when I realized this. In our culture we’ve made the definition of a ‘man’ into how good he is with the ladies in the club and in the bed. This is not right at all. a man is not defined by how many girls he talks to or how many girls he has slept with. But because of this the players have used this word of Love as a tool to get more ladies. This thief will use this will to steal a women’s heart. What for!? To up his status among his friends! Horrible! What has this world come too?
Love as a tool to destroy and to cripple is wrong. But there is the other side. In the right hand and the right people, Love could be a tool to build, encourage and heal. When a woman and a man find each other with a common bond that holds them together (God) then love could be used to build that relationship. That’s when love is used to build a great loving house with a loving relationship and a loving family. A perfect example is out reach groups that help children and families in third world nations. They love them so they want to help; their love is a tool they used for good!
But you should know there are three forms of love. Sounds crazy but yes there is! You love your friends differently than you love you family. A husband loves his wife differently than he loves his child. you get my point. But the Greek words for these are Agape, Eros, Philia, and Storge.
Storage is the love between a parent and a child. This love should always be there because the child is basically a part of the parent. This love is close and strong and take a lot to break.
Philia is the love between friends. This love is hard to build but it is unbreakable with the best friend. It is the kind of love that goes through a lot of pain to get there but there is always a laugh in the end. Always a funny story or a lesson learned.
Eros is a passionate love. A love towards a person, would be love every part of them their looks and all. it is a desire a longing for them, an attraction.
Agape is true love. The love that lasts forever, the love that can stand there through any fight through and argument through all the good and bad. This love last an eternity. This! This is unconditional love!
Note to the wise. If your love isn’t an Agape love, then it isn’t the best love you can get. Strive for this Agape love and I promise you that your life will be full of happiness and joy.
Over all Love is a strong word and shouldn’t be thrown around willy nilly. These words are precious they are sacred. If you don’t use them right they can destroy your life but if you use the word love right when it IS right. perfection will be your life.
