So you're being bullied?
Maybe you don't have anybody to talk to or maybe you do but you can't talk to them about this.
I just want you to know that the problem isn't you, the problem is them...
Maybe you don't have anybody to talk to or maybe you do but you can't talk to them about this.
I just want you to know that the problem isn't you the problem is them.
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Sometimes bullies are the product of their upbringing. Perhaps their parents used bullying tactics on them or on other people and so they grew up conditioned that this is how to treat people.
Sometimes bullies are just ignorant for instance of your religious beliefs, your sexuality your culture or perhaps because of a disability you have. Rather than trying to be open minded and try to understand these differences they may choose to make fun of you instead.
Then of course some people are just nasty for absolutely no reason 🤷🏻♀️ they were brought up by loving parents, they were disciplined appropriately growing up ... it's just the way some people are sadly.
Whatever the reason they bully people there is never a reason for it to be okay, not ever.
Bullies can be people who have insecurities of their own because hurting people hurt people.
There is usually a reason someone picks on another person, that's not saying that it's okay to do it, it's just to try and help you to understand that there is nothing wrong with you.
Maybe the bullying has been going on for a really long time and it's impacting your mental health, maybe you're even feeling like you just can't take it anymore, maybe you can't even go to school at the moment ... are you making excuses why you can't go?
Well I'm sure glad you found this book.
I'm not a counsellor or a trained therapist but my daughter was so terribly bullied I had to move her to a different school. I have lots of experience of bullying in my personal life to know what I'm talking about here. The things I'm sharing are just things I shared with my own daughter so maybe it will help you too.
One of the main things my daughter used to say was, 'Nobody likes me'
Does that sound familiar? Do you feel like nobody likes you?
It can be easy to think that nobody likes you when you're being bullied for a few reasons.
Let me show you what these reasons can be...
👉🏻Bullies grind you down until you feel completely rubbish about yourself, you may even start to believe the things they're saying about you are true. (They're not)
👉🏻Often other people will be afraid of this bully so will follow the crowd and either join in with the bullying so that they 'fit in' or they won't want to hang out with you in case they get picked on too. (These are not real friends by the way, please understand real friends would not be sheep regardless of the implications on themselves.)
