SCARRED!!!

HAPPILY EVER AFTER

AFTER 5 YEARS

"I'm really grateful to the Safe child: Home and Outside, for inviting me as the Chief Guest to this informational seminar. Every one here will speak to children and inform them about good touch and bad touch, but i want to talk to you parents. Dear Parents, hum sab apne bccho ko batate h ki aap kvi kisi uncle aunty ko nahi bolenge unhe school se pick krne ko, ya koi uncle aunty unhe kuch khane ko de to nii lene ko. But kya aap unhe batate h ki bure log sirf ghar ke bahar nahi hote, ghar me v hote h? Kya aap unhe batate h about good touch and bad touch? Agar nahi to you must start now. You are the most important people of your kid's life. So please listen to your child, speak to them and observe them. Bacche man ke bhut saaf hote h. Wo puri duniya ko rose glasses se dekhte hai. Unki duniya se unhe aap introduce krate hai. Aur kyuki wo aap par aankh band kar bharosa karte h wo un sab logo par wishwaas krte h jinse aap unhe milate h. Baccho ko koi bhi behla skta h. Aur wo koi v bhut se cases me aapka bhut kareebi hota h, jispe aap aankh bnd kar wishwaas kr skte but don't, at least in case of your child. Aapka wishwaas saayad aapke bcche ki zindagi barbaad kar skta h.

So my first suggestion is to teach them about touch.

Second, aap apne bccho ko observe kare. Kya koi h jinse aapka bccha bewajah darta h? Ya wo uncomfortable h unke saath? Kya wo unke paas jana nii chahta? Aur agar aisa h to apne bcche se puchiye ki aisa kyu h? Unse baat kariye. Unhe ye yakeen dilayiye ki wo jo bhi bolenge aap unpe bharosa krenga na ki kisi aur pr. Bcche iss maamle me jhut nii bolenge . You must trust your child.

Third, agar aapke ghr me hi koi h jo aapke bcche ko molest kr rha, don't fear about society or your family or anything. Yaad rakhiye aapka ek decision aapke bacche ki zindagi bna skta h ya bigaad skta h. Agar aap apne bcche ke liye stand lete h, aap apne bcche ko yakeen dila rhe hote h ki chahe duniya idhar ki udhar ho jaaye unke mummy papa unke saath h, aur agar aap ye nahi kar paate to trust me aap apne bcche ko whi kho denge. Aur fir aapke bcche usi oppression me jiyenge puri zindagi aur kvi overcome nii kar payenge apne past se.

Aap soch rahe honge how can i say these things confidently when i am not a pshycologist? Because i'm a survivor of child sexual abuse. Yes i was molested throughout my childhood till the age of 13 when i started retaliating to his touch. He was my cousin brother, mujhse age me bhut bare. Initially i didn't realise ki ye jo ho rha mere saath wo galat h. Wo mujhe bolta tha ki ye uske pyaar karne ka tareeka h aur wo sb bccho ko aise hi pyaar krte h. But then when i started growing up, his touch made me uncomfortable but i couldn't do anything because i believed that its normal. But even as a kid i didn't liked it and i wanted my sister to not go through the same i am going through. I protected her, prevented her from going in front of him. I wish i was a bit strong enough to prevent myself as well, i wish i could have told my maa about all this. But i knew no one would believe me as i was a kid and he was adult and my family trusted him. I knew that. And all other survivors i met felt the same that nobody would believe them. Don't let them feel that they won't be believed if they tell you something about this.

And Parents please report those demons to the police. We at the administration are here to help you and your child. There are lot of awareness now a days and trust me breeding a monster at home will do no good to you and your child. Remember Physical injuries recover quickly. Emotional injuries don't. They last forever. You don't want your child to be scarred right? Thank you."