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How Do I Know if A Guy Likes Me? (MUST READ, very recommended)

I like a guy and it seems like he likes me too, but he would never talk to me. So how do I know if he likes me? Well, here's what I did to find out. (submitted by anonymous)

Have you ever come across a guy who seems to like you, but never really does anything about it?

Well, I had to deal with that recently.

I joined a new workplace a few months ago, and everything was just perfect.

I loved my job and all my new friends.

Everything seemed fine for a while, and about a couple of months ago, I started noticing this silent nice guy glancing at me now and then.

He would look at me constantly *my compact mirror helped me catch him often*, but would look away as soon as I looked straight at him.

And surprisingly, this wasn't in college. It was actually at work.

Can you believe that a grown man could actually behave like a shy, prepubescent child from school?

I started talking to his friends a lot more. And the closer I got to his friends, the more he avoided me!

Sometimes, when I would sit close to him, I swear I even caught him sweating and wiping his forehead nervously.

I liked him and his raw innocence attracted me even more. Somehow, he felt like a real virgin when it comes to matter of the heart and to sex. And something about that made him all the more appealing and sexy.

I found out later that he would talk about me with his friends, as his friends would constantly nudge him when I was around. Even when we walked past each other and I waved at him at the cafeteria, he would smile at me sheepishly, and look away immediately. It was so funny and yet so cute. 

He would talk to all other girls, including my girlfriends, but never with me. After a couple of months of waiting to get him to open up, I was really frustrated. I was angry that my own girlfriends were getting his attention and yet, he was pointedly avoiding me.

I didn't want to ask him out because I wasn't sure he liked me in the first place. I was never the one who would make a first move. My ego was too big to get spurned by a guy, let alone a shy guy who didn't have the cojones to even talk to me.

One day, when I was sitting with him and a rather talkative guy at lunch, I asked the talkative guy out for coffee after work. Just to annoy the shy guy even more, I even held the talkative guy's hand and told him I really liked spending time with him. As soon as I did that, the shy guy looked at me with a shocked and pained expression, got up and staggered away.

And that's how I know he likes me!

Shy guys make girls feel more courageous and daring. I don't know why that happens, but all girls know that.

As soon as I saw the shy guy walking away, I got up and walked up to him, half running and before I knew it, I was yelling at him!

"What the hell is wrong with you? If you like me, why the hell won't you just ask me out...?!"

He looked at me, grimaced a bit and said exactly what I wanted to hear.

"I like you so much it scares me... I'm afraid I'd lose you if I ever ask you out" he said firmly and yet nervously.

"But I like you too... I've always liked you and have waited for so long for you to ask me out..." I said without thinking.

And that was the first time I ever asked a guy out. For a second, I wanted to hold myself back and take back my words, but looking back at the incident now, I'm happy I didn't. Ten minutes later, we were officially going out with each other. But what a pain the whole ordeal was.

Was it worth it? Yes. Could he have worked his balls up to ask me out earlier? Of course, he could have!

We're now dating each other, and thankfully though, this guy isn't as shy as he was at first. It took a few dates to get him to open up. And now, he really can't stop talking.

How to know if a guy likes you

If you've ever been in a similar situation where you think a guy likes you, but you're just not sure, use these easy pointers to decode his behavior, especially if he's a shy guy who can't work his courage up to talk to you.

Watch his actions

#1 Does he glance at you often when he thinks you're not looking?

#2 Does he talk about you with his friends?

#3 Does he get nervous around you?

#4 Does he behave differently around you than the way he behaves around other girls?

#5 Does he get bothered when you flirt with other guys?

Then, in all probability, he has some feelings for you. How much does he likes you? Well, I can't say for sure. But he definitely seems to be interested in you.

How to get him to start talking to you

Do you like a shy guy who seems to like you but isn't making any moves to get to know you? Use these pointers.

#1 Give him a few opportunities to talk to you. Smile at him and let him know you're approachable.

#2 Get some alone time with him. Walk past him when you're by yourself and he's alone. How does he behave?

#3 Initiate a conversation with him. Ask him to help you with something, or ask him about a common friend.

#4 Flirt with him and make him feel special. Be warm when you speak to him, and if he's a shy guy, you can definitely go overboard and even compliment him or tell him he's sweet.

#5 Let the word reach him. Put in a word through a common friend that you find him sweet and dateable. Perhaps, that'll give him some courage to talk to you.

And that's how I got to know that he likes me. If you're ever in a similar situation, try using these pointers. It may just work for you too!