Unspoken Rules Of The Friend Circle

Friend Circle Basics of Dating

Well, there are many things you should and shouldn't while dating in the friend circle. This could fuck shit up for everyone. This is probably the thing we feel strongly about. We've been put in bad situations with this many times. Here are a few things that will be included in this chapter; Do's and Don'ts,

The basic rule is, just don't date in the friend circle. Before you go and exit out of our story because you don't believe in that, understand two things first. 1. There are problems. 2. There are exceptions. Start with the first reason.

Don't date in the friend circle. If you do, then of course at first, all your friends are going to be so happy and supportive. They are of course going to say things like. "Oh! I totally ship it!" or "You guys are so cute together!" Because first of all, you were friends in the first place and secondly, they are your friends and obviously they are going to support it. This may seem great and very true. So you're wondering, well, if this is so fine and dandy then why should it not happen. Think about this on a larger perspective. First days: the only thing you guys talk about. First weeks: excitement and happiness. But what happens after time really catches on. Four months later, are you all going to be as perky as you were four days of dating? Would you guys even last that long? Yes, those of you who have a huge crush on one of your friends, you are think yes we will. It is fine to date people outside the friends circle, just make sure they are worthy and able to get along to some degree with at least most of your friends. But, your friends are your friends. You tease one another and joke with each other in non-relationship ways. This knowledge is coming from past and current experiences. At the moment, it may seem like a fairytale and you are thinking of how great this is going to be. One, two, three months later, are you going to be together? Maybe, maybe not. Not only that, are you still going to be happy together? Perhaps it doesn't work out. Tragedy strikes and you break up. Break ups usually involve one person hating them and the other annoyed by them. The annoyed one is the one that ended the relationship and the other one hates them because their heart was broken. So, not only will you lose a friend but you just made everything awkward and uncomfortable for all of your other friends. Well, done! So, your best friend is having a party? Well, how are they going to invite both of you without any problems, because let's face it, they're is like an 65% chance huge drama will break out and 25% chance one of you or both will not attend the party because their ex is going. Your friends want both of you to come without any conflicts. If it is one of those cases where the person completely changes and nobody like them, none of your friends, and you break up, that's more or less fine because they turned into the little shit and how can it be awkward at parties? If no one like them why would they invite them? Most likely not the case. Now, if you decide to totally blow off and disregard this rule, for your friend's sake, end it on good terms. Don't continue to hate them. Just tell yourself it is all over and ignore them if you don't like them but for the love of all good things, don't cause mother fucking drama! But if you decide not listen, you may be excused IF you qualify as an exception.

So you're thinking, there's exceptions, well, I must be one. Not so fast! The exception involves at the beginning. Think back to how you met your crush, which just so happens to be in your friend circle! Think about the following social situations: How long ago did you met them and when did you start crushing on them? What are five PERSONALITY traits that you like about this person and are you attracted to them? When you met your crush, who was your three best friends? Who did you hang out with the most, both inside and outside of school? You may think, I don't want to fill out a questionnaire but this is all relevant. The exception is "You have had to meet and start crushing on them, BEFORE they were your friend" So, some of you are either understanding the exception or are still confused. This exception is basically saying, the first time you met, it was not at a party and it was not by being introduced by your friends. Speaking from experience, you have had to meet them in a class where you don't have any friends and when the teacher said pick a partner, you guys got stuck together. Or you say by each other in class, you're locker neighbors, you met in the hallway. Whatever it is, you have had to basically meet them on your own. Wait! Those of you thinking you qualify as an exception, there is a little bit more to it. You also have had to start liking them BEFORE you became in the same friend circle. Not only that, but also, they have to do the same thing. They have had to like you BEFORE you were in the friend circle. This is the only exception because 1. You weren't connected together by your friend circle. 2. You have roots. 3. You generally know them longer and if you still like them that shows how much more suitable you guys are. 4. You must have really done something to become in the same friend circle with your crush. These crushes are the ones that are based on personality more than appearances. You actually know who they are and like them for that reason. This is why it is an exception. It was something before the friendship.

If you start dating and they are both in the friend circle, fine.

If you start dating after you're both in friend circle, fine as well.

As long as there was something before the friend circle, you are good. These aren't those nasty break ups. These are the ones where it's ten months later, your both still happy, your friends still ship it, you're everyone's OTP (One True Pairing for those who didn't know. Basically your top ship). These relationships are the ones where everyone will be crying if it ends, but then again, these are the ones that don't end; they are the final one.

Say you have your friend circle, the group of you friends, BUT your best friend is not in this circle. They have a different friend circle but you're their best friend too. You don't see each other at parties, unless it's your own. When you hand out, it's mostly just the two of you. OH! And you also just so happen to both like one another. Yes, definitely acceptable. The reason being is you are first of all, it's probably destiny if that is the case. But on the perspective of others, if there is a break up (but these don't usually happen and if they do, you guys end up still being good friends) there is no awkwardness for anyone. This kind of relationship is rare so if it is the case for you, go for it. You have our approval.