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Rape

Rape can happen to both male or female but the most victims are females mostly young females.

Reports of over a million victim cases are reported every year all around the world. Young ones are forcefully victimized into rape and the next most dreaded enemy that hunt them is GUILT.

Guilt, shame, regret, animosity. The major thing is guilt because every rape victim always have that feeling that it was their fault that they would have being more careful, they would have avoided places, they would have fought harder or listened to their parent. But the truth is that it already happened you cant change the fact that you were victimized into rape.

My mum always dropped me off in her friends place, anytime I was on school break.
Each time her friend was off to work, her teenage son took advantage of me I didnt really understood what was going on because I was only 6 years old but, as I grew older It dawned on me on what really happened. And that when guilt started building up and upon till now, I havent gotten rid of that guilt it just keep hunting my soul.-Shantel.

Like Shantel have you being victimized as young as that? Young, Innocent children have been force to engage in sexual act all because of the threat sexual predators give to shut the victims up. and they end up feeling guilty of everything that might have happened.

another thing is shame. Shame start occurring immediately after being raped because you have lost something you can never get back your pride and dignity, something priceless, taken forcefully away from you.
All you end up is your empty self and that hurt a lot.

Tasha a victim of sexual assault say.- I grew up from a Christian family home where we were taught from the bible that fornication is bad when I was abuse I began to feel I had sinned to God I prayed and prayed for forgiveness I was so ashamed of myself because everyone in my family held me with high esteem thinking I was some sort of virgin Mary I was so ashamed to tell anyone I always thought I could be like my mother by keeping yourself chaste till marriage but its a shame I ended up this way.

Tasha faced a really challenging life after being molested at the age of 14 she suffered in silence for 12 years before she spoke up. She felt like the more the years past by, the weight kept becoming heavier and heavier she couldnt keep it in anymore and at the same time she couldnt just bring herself to tell her family especially her mum so she visited the therapist, that was how she became free from the load she has being carrying the past years. She later said this, and I quote:- everyone who has suffered from sexual abuse should speak I know it is never easy because of the shame that people will look down at you as cheap but the truth is it not like that, in fact its never like that. When my mum heard about it, she was shocked she even blamed herself for what happened but I tried to make her understand that it wasnt her fault I was only the person who was careless. She supported me very much emotionally when I was having those guilt my family was always there for me I even wish I had told them earlier than this because, what I thought would have happened if I told anyone, was the exact opposite of what I am seeing now my family was very much supportive I never regretted for one day not telling them my abuse story. If you have been sexually abused before, dont keep it in SPEAK! UP!! And you will see the big difference it can make.

It is said that a girl child is more vulnerable in this act of rape compared to boys. A mother should take into precaution when training a girl child. A girl child is like a precious stone that needs to be handled carefully but nowadays its sad to see that some parent lack knowledge on how to bring up a girl child which may lead into rape, unwanted pregnancy, diseases, Ect. Parents should take into precaution that the world is cruel and only wants to take, so it's important for us all to grow wise, focus our attention majorly on the girl child, spend time with your child, talk with them, listen and advise.

Sexual assult aren't only victims on children, assult too occur in marriages and relationships.