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It has been every girl's dream to find and have her own Prince Charming. Someone who gives her butterflies in her stomach, someone who corresponds to her own standards, and someone who she foresees growing old with. Unfortunately, the world is not that perfect to have things coincide with every girl's dream of having a happy ending. Things do not usually go as how they are expected to be no matter how hard an individual tries to control them. We aspire for different possessions but still fall into those that we have never imagined of having.
Being a girl is tough. You cannot stay outside late at night, you are perceived by the society as someone who is weaker than the opposite sex, your image should be taken care of, and you always have that troublesome monthly period. However, there is this one powerful advantage of being a girl especially when it comes to finding her desired mate. That is, every girl has the right to choose whoever she wants to be with. Most of the time, girls aspire for a Prince Charming but end up with a toad thus giving them multiple questions and uncertainties about themselves.
My very first suitor approached me when I was just a freshman in highschool. He was talkative especially in class, clever, undeniably thin, smaller than me, and dark. I rejected him directly and with no hesitation but he still continued getting his hopes up in the succeeding year. My second suitor came in the following year. He was nice, very dramatic, does not prioritize grades, very competitive, and a total show-off. He was quite better than the first one but he irritated me most of the time. I was looking for more attributes from a guy and so I decided to reject him. The third suitor came in when I was already a freshman in college. I liked him at first for he was approachable, smart, humble, and a good conversationalist. But his downfall was that, you have to make the first move when you want to talk to him. I got tired of his routine so I finally decided to reject him. I could not bear being in routinized situations with a person. I was looking for less expected situations with a person. The latest suitor that I had came in during my sophomore year in college. He was somehow similar to my previous suitor but he had attributes that made him better than the former. He had a lot of experiences to share, he was very outgoing, and he was, in no doubt, smart. I was about to spill the magic word to him but the shocking fact hindered me to do so. He knew nearly everything except consistency. He was approachable at times and become distant the next time. The confusion he gave me towards his attitude made me realize he was not yet the Prince Charming I was looking for. He was, again, a passer-by.
Observations have opened my eyes to the ways on how girls become choosy towards their mate preferences. We earnestly look for those qualities in a male that meet our standards. Sadly, most of the time, we are not asked by those persons whom we admire, rather, we are asked by those persons who do not even meet our standards. Some people, including myself, directly reject a suitor especially when the person does not meet any of our standards. On the other hand, according to Lloyd Cadena- a youtube channel holder, others fall into the following types of busters:
The Heartbreaker Type: The heartbreaker type is the kind of buster who rejects a suitor in an informal manner. He or she does not confront the suitor personally. Rather, he or she frankly expresses himself or herself to the suitor through text messages, online conversations, or through other people. This is the kind of person who is so coward in facing and rejecting a suitor personally but is so brave to easily crush and let go of people.
The Cool Type: The cool type is the kind of buster who, unlike the heartbreaker type, personally faces his or her suitor and directly rejects him or her. He or she, without further ado, confronts his or her suitor expressing his or her intense dislike towards the suitor to immediately end every connection that they have and avoid future misunderstandings. An example of a conversation between a suitor, which is played by a guy, and buster, which is played by a girl, can best show how the cool type of buster deals with situations like that.
