My Unpopular Opinions as a Woman and a Black Woman

Ch 1: Baby Mama culture is distasteful and needs to GO!

As time has passed we have kept moving farther and farther away from marriage and two parent families to single mother homes and men stuck on child support. And its honestly so so sad. 

1. Marriage is a beautiful thing and it signifies two peoples commitments to each other. I wish people would get married and form stable relationships before they produce children. If a man does not ant to get married but wants you to bare his children this should cause a alarm in your head to go off. Is it because you guys cant afford a wedding? Well that is ok just get a cheap ring and do it at the court house? Does he just not want to get married to you? Why? Does he not plan to stay with you in the long run? Does he want a way out?  Almost 70 percent of black children are born to single mothers. Something has got to change. I do not want to become a man's baby mama but I will become a man's wife. A recent example would be Keke Palmer. She is pregnant and I am happy for her she is not married. And some might say so what the baby will be okay. But I find it interesting that Miss Keke herself said that, "I don't believe in girlfriend and boyfriend. I'm single till we married." She posted this on her Instagram. But nevertheless I hope she has a health pregnancy. 

2. Having two parents in the home is better for the child. Now I am not shaming anyone but I have to bring up Nick Cannon. Nick Cannon has had 11 kids with six different baby mamas. and one did pas away. He is also expecting another one this year. A lot of people, especially men, will say their all financially provided for. So what/ Those children are all in different households. They will never receive his full attention because he will never have enough time in the world to prioritize each and every child. If they were all in one home with one mother this would not be a problem. Even if a man works a lot he still comes home to his wife and kids all in one house. 

3. Here our some statistics Married men are only half as likely as bachelors and one-third as likely as divorced guys to take their own lives. Wives are also much less likely to commit suicide than single, divorced, or widowed women. Married people are much less likely to have problems with alcohol abuse or illegal drugs. Marriage lowers the risk that both men and women will become victims of violence, including domestic violence.  Children lead healthier, longer lives if parents get and stay married.

sources : https://www.city-journal.org/html/why-marriage-good-you-12002.html#:~:text=Married%20men%20are%20only%20half,alcohol%20abuse%20or%20illegal%20drugs.

https://files.eric.ed.gov/fulltext/EJ1079374.pdf

If you want my opinion. Which I mean if you didn't  why even click on the book. Just stay celibate until you are married. That would honestly solve a lot of problems. Focus on yourself. You will find a partner when the time is right. Do not become another statistic. That is it for today.  always comments are welcome. I think next week I will talk about dressing modestly and the oversexualization of girls.