Fear by definition is, "an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat."
It's interesting how in that definition it only states that fear is likely from the danger of pain or a threat.
Why you ask?
Well it's because aren't people always experiencing fear when it comes to love or relationships.
Wait a second maybe it makes sense after all.
If there is no fear in the love then maybe there is no love at all.
Let me explain with a short story...
Awesome is driving to his spot, you know the spot, it's calming where you can breathe as if you feel every single particle of air reach into your lungs soothing every stress sensation in your body. Yes that spot, where when you close your eyes all you can hear are the waves crashing against the wood and returning back into the ocean as quickly as it came in. The spot where he can just think. Think with no fear. He settles into his spot underneath the pier and stares off into the horizon where the sun is beginning to settle in for the day.
He closes his eyes and just decides to let his thoughts take over just like the waves took over the Titanic except in this case he hopes he doesn't sink and become devoured in them.
Why didn't I cry?
Why didn't I feel sad?
Why did I feel relieved?
Why ..why did I feel free?
There was no fear he thought to himself.
No fear of loss.
More thoughts flooding.
Thoughts coming in like waves crashing inside him in just simple short phrases or words.
Failure.
Lost.
Selfish.
Unreal.
It never was.
And then Fear
I was never scared.
I was never scared of losing her.
The waves begin to slow down, the breath begins to slow down , and he can just hear his heart beat.
His heart beating slowly in rhythm with the oceans crashing one by one. As everything begins to connect.
In order to love there has to be fear, fear of losing that person. That's the person that is everything to you. Not in terms of dependence but in terms of trusting them with your heart. Finally admitting to yourself and them that you love them is scary its fearful because you are metaphorically giving your person all of you. You metaphorically lay your heart and place it into the palms of their hands. Hoping and trusting that they won't drop it and break it.
That's the pain, that's the pain, that's the danger and you feel it; that fear is yes a scary but it can be good. It means you care. It means you're scared. It means he or she means something to you.
It's okay to have fear, it's okay to be scared.
thoughts still flooding... don't be devoured don't sink.
I never gave my heart to another pair of hands...Ever.
I was scared to be scared. Feared having fear.
But sometimes the someone or something that you fear that is dangerous or painful that can break you is the absolute someone or something that can bring you absolute peace on the other side. Just having to be willing to find out. Be willing to jump. Be willing to place your heart into their hands; look into their eyes and say....I'm sure.
He's sinking... the thoughts are flooding... he's sinking...
He begins to picture his heart out of his chest ... carrying it in his hands ready to place it in the palms of another...but who?
He sees a face ... and all he could think was ... that's quite........Unexpected.
He opens his eyes and the sun has already set.
It's just him and the feeling of the cool ocean breeze.
The curls in his hair keep brushing across his face.
And he just softly says to himself...
Hmm...Who woulda thunk it?
