A Conversation

Coping Mechanisms?

Are there bad coping mechanisms?
Yes
Like what?
Well, people who hurt themselves to cope are using unhealthy and unsafe coping mechanisms
But I'm saying bad. Like, bad ones to practice, like morally or something.
I'm confused?
Well, some people say age regression is a bad coping mechanism? But is it?
No, of course not
But people say it is
Some people believe it to be entirely sexual due to the certain kink- I forget the name
DDLG?
Yes, along with its various other subegenres
Are those bad kinks?
Depends.
On?
People, preference and how its used. Essentially, the same with all kinks really, if everyone involved is consenting to what is happening and the kink(s) involved, it's ok.
But then is age regression ok?
Yes.
Do you even know what it is?
Of course ! I'm educated you know.
No of course, I just want to be sure. I asked someone else this and it turned out we were thinking of different things.
Ah, I see, well what do you know age regression to be?
A cooing mechanism for people with trauma or high anxiety where the mind or mental state regresses or returns to a younger mentality, causing the person who is referred to as the "little" to act and behave younger than the body's age. Relationships, platonic and romantic, that involve this usually are referred to as CGL relationships or "Care Giver, Little" relationships.
Ah yes, and this is different to the DDLG/MDLB kink community because DDLG or MDLB stands for "Daddy Dom, Little Girl" or "Mommy Dom, Little Boy" and etc.
How does that make it clearly different?
CGL relationships or "agere" are not sexual while the little is regressed as they are in a vulnerable mental state. The kink community, while maybe linking to childhood trauma or experiences, does not involve the little to be mentally in a younger state. They only behave that way to be cute and "sexually appealing" to their partner or partners.
So then, agere is not a bad coping mechanism?
Yes, it's perfectly ok. The age regression community constantly battles for their independence away from being thought of as a kink that many people find unappealing. But at the end if the day, it is just a coping mechanism for people, whether involuntary or not, it is simply just a thing that people use to help them destress, lower their anxiety or cope with bad past and/or present experiences.
You talk a lot. Not in a bad way, just you clearly have more to say on this topic than the others.
Well I don't want to be uneducated about coping mechanisms when I could be able to help support these groups.
Why do you separate them?
I don't?
No not you! Like... people. We've split them from us as if they are abnormal and we are normal.
But we have done that with everything. With everyone... Everyone believes they are whatever the system has told them to be- normal.
Who else have we split?
Anyone with any form of a mental health problem or mental disability or condition etc. Anyone who is neurodivergent, for example, has literally been categorised as "Atypical" whilst anyone who is neurotypical is "Typical".
Ok, I see your point... but what about other coping mechanisms?
Like I said, it depends.
Name me one then, an example.
Um... Oh, ok I know
Go on then
Some people do like cleaning and organising as a coping mechanism, or distraction I guess. Is that a "bad coping mechanism" to you?
I guess not...