the little book of BLOCKS

Chapter 6: Rebuilding Self-Esteem

The experience of being blocked, especially by someone important to us, can be a blow to our self-esteem. It can make us question our worth, our actions, and our place in the digital and real world. However, this chapter is about turning that pain into a stepping stone towards stronger self-esteem and self-worth. It's about finding the silver lining in the cloud of being blocked and coming out on the other side more resilient and confident.

Advice on Rebuilding Self-Esteem and Self-Worth

• Self-Reflection: Use this experience as an opportunity for self-reflection. Ask yourself what you can learn from this situation, not in a way that blames you for being blocked, but in a way that helps you grow. Reflection can lead to self-improvement and a deeper understanding of your own needs and boundaries.

• Affirmations: Practice positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your qualities and achievements. Affirmations are powerful tools for changing negative thought patterns into positive ones, reinforcing your self-worth.

• Achieve and Set Goals: Set small, achievable goals for yourself. These can be related to personal development, hobbies, career, or social relationships. Achieving these goals can boost your confidence and remind you of your capabilities and worth.

Emphasizing Self-Care and the Importance of Supportive People

• Self-Care: Prioritize self-care. This can be anything from ensuring you get enough sleep, eating well, exercising, to doing activities that you enjoy and that make you feel good. Self-care is about treating yourself with kindness and respect, reinforcing the belief that you are worth caring for.

• Surround Yourself with Support: Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Positive social interactions can significantly impact your self-esteem. Being around friends and family who encourage and believe in you can help you see your own value through their eyes.

• Seek Professional Help if Needed: Sometimes, the impact on self-esteem can be profound, and talking to a professional can help. Therapists and counselors can provide strategies and tools for rebuilding self-esteem, besides offering a supportive and understanding space to process your feelings.

Practical Steps for Everyday Confidence

• Social Media Detox: Consider taking a break from social media. This can provide a much-needed perspective and reduce the temptation to compare yourself to others, a habit that can significantly impact your self-esteem.

• Engage in New Activities: Engaging in new activities, especially those that push you slightly out of your comfort zone, can be incredibly empowering. Whether it's a new hobby, learning a new skill, or joining a club or group, new activities can boost your self-confidence and expand your social circle.

• Celebrate Small Wins: Recognize and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. Celebrating small wins can help build a sense of accomplishment and reinforce the belief in your own abilities and worth.

Conclusion

Rebuilding self-esteem after being blocked is not just about healing from the hurt; it's about growing from it. It's an opportunity to reinforce your sense of self-worth, prioritize your well-being, and cultivate a supportive social environment. Remember, your value does not diminish because of someone else's inability to see it. On the contrary, this experience can be the catalyst for personal growth, increased resilience, and a deeper appreciation for the truly important connections in your life.