Falling.
Every time I start falling for someone, I fall for them quickly.
Obviously, it always starts off with talking and getting to know each other. You start learning things that no one else knows. You start becoming more and more interested in each other. Then after that, you start falling for them and it all goes wrong..
Falling for someone is to do with liking them a lot, wanting a good relationship with them, maybe even loving them.
Most people I think I've fallen for, have hurt me. They might feel the same way, but in the end, they lose their feelings that youre still holding onto. You still have those amazing feelings that make you happy and make you smile. You still like them tons and always think about them. But they are the opposite.
If you ever fall for someone, they probably haven't fallen for you. It hurts. They might think you're feeling more into this relationship then they feel. Which is probably why the relationship completly messes up. You're going to fast and they want it slower... But they started going fast in the first place.
Relationships are messy and complicated and make no sense. They are hard because you're both two different people yet you want to be together. You think it will all go fine but because of your two contrasting personalitys, then it soon could end.
Falling for someone hurts. No wonder its called falling. It's dangerous and hard and complicated and so much more. You could be head over heals for them but they might not be for you. It depends on who they are. It's all about the person. Some people fall quickly, some take a long time. It depends how you feel.
When you fall for someone, its going to hurt and it probably won't work. Life is unfair. You have to go through a couple or more relationships to finally find a good one. That's what sucks because each relationship you go through to find the one, you end up getting hurt and broken bit by bit. And then if you finally do find the perfect relationship, you'll probably mess it up because of all the other relationships that have ruined you. Every time you start to like someone, your past problems will come up. It will be hard because you'll both have some issues. Jealously, trust, promise issues, anxiety, much more. It's a hard hard thing. Good relationships deal with the issues and you'll both help each other. Then, in the end you're probably in love. But in my experience, they tried to help me but after a while, they can't deal with it. It gets too hard. Which makes them lose interest and me hate myself. Which goes into changing for someone.
Changing.
Type 1 of changing- If you start liking someone and you both have different interests, you'll slowly change yourself to be more like them. You'll listen to there music, you'll talk like them, you'll dress a little like them. Some times, it can be a good thing. You'll be similar and everything will fall in perfectly. But other times, it won't be a good thing. They won't like that you're similar to them. It gets too much. Have you ever heard of "opposites attract?". I reckon that a perfect relationship will be when you are both different but similar in certain things. This would make it so much easier for both of you. You'll have connections yet you'll also have your own point of view. You can and will think for yourself. This type of changing is okay and won't always be bad. You're just changing your interests. Maybe even exploring things more and finding who you really are. The person might of given you an insight to who you want to be.
Type 2 of changing- If you like someone, and they maybe don't like you back and they want to change things about you. This is a bad change. Because you like them so much, you'll want to be happy and you want them to be happy. Although, they might have some certain things they don't like about you. You could try and change who you really are. I hope no one ever does this because you'll lose your identity. You won't be you. Fake instead of real. And if anyone tried to change you, you should stop them. They should like/love you for who you are and for yourself. They shouldnt want you to change your hair, looks, personality, friends, interests, feelings, how you are as a person. They should accept you for you and be happy with that. No one wants a fake person. And one day, after you have changed yourself for them, they'll get bored. Maybe find another person who is exactly what they want. Then you're stuck as someone you're not and it's hard to get out of it. If you changed and you're with them for a long time, it probably feels natural and it probably feels like the real you. But you have to remember that it isn't and you should change back into who you are inside. Thats also a big part of love. You should love someone for who they are. And don't change them into someone they're not.
