How To Flirt Your Way Through High School

Flings.

To me, flings are a huge part of being a teenager and the entire high school experience.

In my definition, a fling is when you have something like a relationship with someone, but without the label or seriousness. A lot of the time it's just talking and snapchatting, without anything physical. But in some cases, those x's you send in texts, turn into real life make-out sessions!

Now I'm not saying that everyone should have a fling with someone, just because they can. But a fling can be fun and a great alternative for someone who isn't too keen on commitment!

In my experience, flings can be great, but they can also suck. This is usually when the fling comes to an end- something you didn't really want to happen.

Story time. 
A little while ago I had a tiny crush on a drama acquaintance. He was super cute, cool and loved all the same bands as me. He was admired by quite a few girls, so I believed he was well out of my league. But one day, we started texting.  I don't really remember how it started, but it did, and we found that we shared an unbelievable amount of things in common.  
Slowly our friendship took a very flirty path and I found myself hanging out with the boy of my dreams. This continued for a few months- we went on crazy adventures I never thought I would experience (one literally ended in us running through town in a huge hail/rain storm!), and I very quickly started falling for this incredible boy. 
But one day, after a night of watching movies, laughs and kisses- he left. 
It wasn't so sudden, like he stopped all communication, but instead he confessed his soul to me and we made the decision to stop whatever we had between us, in fear of the eventual parting when he had to move away in the following months. 
Now I can't say it was easy. 
I remember calling my friend and crying - spilling my soul until I could no longer speak. 
And I can't say that I don't still think of this boy, his hair and the amazing time we shared but I learnt a lot. 
See, he was my first real fling. My first real connection with someone that didn't lead to a full on relationship. He made me realise that sometimes things are better left before they become ruined. 

I did also learn to love myself. See, he accepted the real me like no-one ever had before, and to this day I still silently thank him for making me realise that the opinions of others don't matter, if I am happy.

My case was the extreme, it was fun and painful at the same time. But a lot of flings can be fun, and worth it in every way.

My final tips of a fabulous fling:
1. Make your intentions clear. Don't let someone fall for you without realising that you don't want anything serious. THIS IS IMPORTANT!!! (Hurt feelings suck.)
2. Don't do anything you wouldn't want your Grandma to see. Sometimes flirting is so fun that we get carried away, but think of it like this - when you need to make any important decisions, ask yourself if you would still be proud of that decision in 2 weeks, 2 months and 2 years. If the answer is no, then no!
3. Have fun. You're young and you're supposed to live your life to the fullest! Just say I didn't warn you! (And if it does turn into a relationship then there is nothing wrong with that!)

Till next time

xx