Relationship Goals: Black Love

A Queens Role

Now my kings, for the ladies. The Queen's role includes supporter,encouragement, confidence, secure attitude, nurturing, teacher, at times, level headed,committed,catering, submissive, and loving spirited... ect. Traits every man wants in a woman. Since the beginning of time women have been mothers to all men and there is no one like us.

As women we must find what our purpose is. Only one person can wear the pants in a relationship. There can't be two captains on a basketball team..can it? But working together and compromise is the key. There's a difference between being independent and wanting to take both roles of the woman and man in the relationship. If not.. you could even compromise and decide 50/50 if that's a better way for the both of you. Everyone has different views and opinion, and once again to each it's own. Because of different situations we've been through, some women aren't taught the true or "traditional" (old school) role of a Queen. Everything starts at home. Some women are so use to seeing or having to be in control that when they are in a relationship they have trouble letting a man take on his role as head. That doesn't mean a women's worth is less important than a man's by any means.

When the word submissive is used it is seen in a negative light. Only because of how people portray it's definition. It seems everyone interprets this phrase in their on way. Because we are in a new generation that word is frowned upon, but it doesn't have to be. In a relationship a women has certain jobs just like the a man does. A lot women of this generation have become lazy or in a comfortable mind set of "I need control 24/7". Some were not taught at home the basic essentials in a relationship and because of this some/most have trouble keeping a healthy steady relationship and/or figuring it out.

(trial and error unfortunately). With experienced comes lessons. The reason for the lack of knowledge or natural instincts of this topic, a women could have a number of reasons why they weren't properly taught this. Even so there's always room for improvement and learning visa versa. Or on the other hand in some households the man and women might have opposite jobs or roles or maybe share them. What ever works best for you and your partner. Some people prefer that. No judgement this way; to each it's own I can't say it enough.

A woman is also expected to support and encourage her King. Everyone likes to be uplifted every now and then, be his motivation not stress. Every man needs motivation someone he has a reason to work hard for. Show him appreciation and gratefulness. Show him respect and don't tear down his ego purposely. Be honest, but there's a way to say and do everything . That's what most men want without having to tell you. Some things men want are very simple if you pay attention and observe closely. Be his back bone and support if he has no one.

Men want simple things like this. When he gets off work or comes home from hanging with the boys have a nice bath ready for him, the house clean, a four /five course homemade dinner ready, have ESPN on or his favorite action movie. Cater to your King and this is only a few things you can do to show him your appreciation. Now I also want to mention all these things are husband and wife benefits, this is hard to come by. In my experience I had to learn the hard way.. not everyone you with may deserve all that or all at once. People do get comfortable. You should really take your time and get to know the person. And we all know to an exstinct we really don't know someone. As we grow we change mindsets and views every day.💯 It's A challenge figuring out. A lot of women feel it's the man job to do all the sweet stuff, not true! Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying we are slaves to our men by any means, all I'm saying is as women because we are more nurturing and these things come easier to us. Also by us doing things like this or can also teach him as well what you love language is. Once again.. to each it's own, some may disagree with me.  How do you feel about it? You have to remember everyone mature as different times, so what is common sense and natural to us, men are on a whole different level.

Think outside the box be different. Don't compare your relationship to other peoples. Number one mistake! Concentrate on your own relationship and building a stronger bond between you and your lover. Do what works for you both as a couple and makes you both happy. Keep others out your business. Please trust me we all been there.