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Raising tomorrow's leaders (18 Tips)

1. Praise your child, even if they get 4/10 in exam, praise your child in front of others.

2. Never make your child feel that he is useless. Never favour one child on the other.

3. Every time we speak with our children speak with respect, say "thank you", etc. Don't use slang i.e gimmi instead say 'please give me'; use clear words, be polite and never swear. (Prophet said, do not use slang as it will decrease your respect).

4. You need to bare in mind when your child is young that this is just a child, don't take away there playing time by treating them like an adult. If we do this, they will rebel in life.

5. We need to assist our children to make decisions. He or she must be taught to make decisions. Acknowledge them, guide them by talking to them, if they want to go for something, organize the plan for them.

6. Whenever you have decisions to be made ask your child of his or her opinion. For example, if you are going to buy a car, ask there opinion, where they like to eat, or what colour they like for a car, this develops habit of consultancy in them.

7. Depending on the house we are living in, we would perhaps have a corner; write the name of the child there, as it be there territory. Put there certificates on wall; this makes them confident of themselves.

8. Teach your child to follow you to read salah. Lead them rather than instructing, it's a more powerful way. What your child sees you doing they will remember forever. Start instructing them to read salah at the age of 7, this will help them and make it easy for them to follow when they reach puberty when it becomes compulsory on them.

9. We need to teach our children how to put forward their opinion, how you would disagree to a point. Don't use swear words when you disagree on anything as this will inculcate in your child as he is watching you being aggressive. Children have much more grasping power than us and they pick up things very fast.

10. Encourage your child to ask question, and try to answer each question they ask else they will get it from a wrong source. Praise there questions at times.

11. Always fulfill your promises on to you children. Do not make big promises which you cannot fulfill; this makes them develop a habit of making false promises. If you fail to fulfill any promise, explain.

12. Very important to teach our child is how to develop skills of being a member of a group. Team work is very important; this teaches them to give chances to people in life rather always competing.

13. Make dua for your children. Even if they have gone astray, pray for them.

14. Tell them you might fail once, but never lose hope. Teach them how they should react to a failure.

15. Apologize to your child if you have made a mistake, this teaches your child to repent to Allah. Don't rise ifs and buts when you are wrong; there are no ifs and buts when it comes to repentance.

16. Have a few surprises for your children, to praise there deed of good, give them recognition at home, that this surprise is for your so and so good you did.

17.We need to make sure that we train our children to read a portion of Quran daily, according to there capacity.

18. Tell your child repeatedly that you love them, tell them how gorgeous they are and how important they are to you, hug them, its a sunnah to kiss your children.
AND IF YOU DON'T HAVE CHILDREN THEN YOU DO HAVE SMALL BROTHERS N SISTERS OR YOUR SMALL COUSINS OR FOR YOUR FUTURE when you r married

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I counselled a young guy who was addicted to masturbation. He told me he can't do without masturbating. One thing that struck me in his confession was when he said, 'my mum caused all this for me'.
Curiosity got hold of me & I asked him, how? He said;  he started masturbating since when he was 4 years old. ' my mum dresses up before me, I am used to seeing her nakedness. I am not moved to have sex with her but I always long to see mature ladies naked just the way I always see my mum dressing up naked before me. I still remember seeing her nakedness regularly till I was 8 years& my dad do shout on her, 'send this boy out before you dress...' , but my mum would always reply by saying, 'will my son sleep with me? Stop planting evil thought in his heart'.
Anytime I see my mum's naked body, I long to see ladies' naked body, I went into sex at age 10 and till now I am not free from sex& heavy pornography & masturbation...' 

Dear parents, I hope you are not guilty of this?
You are dressing up before your 2 years son/daughter & you say he/she doesn't know anything yet? .
Some couples will be having sex while their close to 2 years old child will be in their room with them & they will feel, he can only see, he can't understand.
Sir/ma, that your child does not need to understand. Seeing your nakedness or seeing you and your spouse making love is enough to plant abnormal sexual fantasies and urge in that child.
Remember, it is a jet world! How will you destroy your own children with your own carelessness?
Don't let your children see your nakedness.
Don't make love in the presence of your child no matter the age. The scene sticks to the memory& they may want to explore & experiment what they are seeing.
Stop making (unknowingly) home-made 'sex clips or video' for your children to be watching.
Mummy, sit properly. Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; parting your legs and your son is seeing your inner tight & pant.
Be careful! Daddy, don't wear that ordinary boxer at home that when you sit down & your 'thing' is dangling & your daughter is seeing it.
There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse.
Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house, you now put your children into sexual bondage.
Mummy, wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous.
Yes, they won't lust after you but you might be increasing their curiosity to see the breasts of ladies outside.
Let's stop being 'pornographic materials' to our children.
Raising sexually pure and impure children begins at home'

My Counsel.

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