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BROKEN HEART

Broken Heart...have you ever realised that broken heart is a feeling which you could share and even you could help someone to mend their broken heart but it is one those emotion which could be felt only when we get it.

As humans, we are always wired to experience incredible love and affection.

But,As we know for every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction, and when it comes to the emotion of true love, that the reaction is a gut-wrenching pain, a deep void of sadness, and feelings of seemingly eternal loneliness.

Most of us has face the broken heart season right??

We may be broken into pieces in different situations such as when we come to know that our best buddy who we trusted a lot was cheating on you,or when your beautiful relationship fails..there are many more situation.

So here i will give you some simple steps which heals and mend your broken heart.

ACCEPT THE PAIN

Accept that you will have to go through some pain. It is an unavoidable truth that if you loved enough to be heartbroken, you have to experience some suffering.

When you lose something that mattered to you a lot, it is natural and important to feel sad about it - that feeling is an essential part of the healing process.

The problem with broken-hearted people is that they seem to be reliving their misery over and over again.

When you enter your bedroom at night, you switch on the light without thinking. If you obsess about your ex, and feel unhappy all the time, it's likely that your unconscious mind is 'switching on' your emotions in exactly the same way.

• CHANGE YOUR HABITS

Now you have to break those connections. Turn off the music that reminds you of that person who had broken your heart.

Take up a new activity. And keep moving: exercise is the single most effective therapy for depression.

The point of these changes is to break up the old associations and give yourself a new environment for your new life.

The changes you make don't have to be permanent. Even if it is just using a different shampoo and deleting that person's number from the memory of your mobile, change something.

• CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS

The next step is to do the same thing on the inside - transform your habits of thought.

To change your thinking habits, you need to understand a little more about them.

Have you ever witnessed the same event as someone else, and later found out their account of it was completely different from yours? Each of you saw the event through a 'frame', made up of your personal beliefs, feelings and internal habits.

If you are finding it devastatingly difficult to handle the end of your relationship with that particular person, you may need to change this 'frame'. You will need to reframe your heartbreak. Stop seeing it as the end of your happiness. Instead, turn it into a challenge; view it as an opportunity.

Being heartbroken can make you feel worthless and hopeless - but that is because the frame you are using is too narrow. Learning to see your situation with a different frame is a wonderful liberation.

• VIEW YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THAT PERSON FROM THE OUTSIDE

The following exercise will help you look at your circumstances from different points of view, so you gain helpful insights.

1. Now think of someone you admire - a character from history or a real friend. Imagine they are watching a movie of this part of your life, and step into their shoes to watch it instead. Imagine what their comments would be.

2. Now imagine that a neutral observer is watching the movie of your life. Step into their shoes and watch it from there.

3. Notice the differences that you see from each point of view. Which ones are helpful? Which ones make you feel better? Use these perspectives to view your relationship in a new light.

People who get over difficulties well rarely see what has happened to them as a disaster. They frame it as a challenge. It is a matter of a point of view. It is not what happens to us, but how we interpret it that determines the outcome for us.

• CHANGE HOW YOU SEE YOURSELF AND THAT PERSON

The next stage is to focus on your mental picture of your person. By changing how you represent that particular person in your mind, you can greatly reduce or even eliminate your distress.

You must learn to control your 'visualisation'. Every single one of us makes pictures in our imagination - and we can all learn how to change the pictures. Memory and imagination affect our feelings in the same way as reality does.

• UNDERSTAND YOUR EMOTIONS

The next stage is to learn to understand your emotional reactions better. Your feelings of heartbreak are unlikely to disappear unless you cope with what they are trying to tell you.

An emotion is a bit like someone knocking on your door to deliver a message. If you don't answer, it keeps knocking until you do open up.

Opening the door to your feelings means learning to understand them. This can be hard, because heartbreak is complicated by other feelings: anger, fear and shame.

• BELIEVE THAT YOU WILL FIND SOMEONE LIKE THAT PERSON AGAIN

You could fall into the trap of remaining convinced that your person is the only person you could ever love. This is unlikely to be true on a planet with six billion people.

So why do you believe it? Can it be because you are desperately trying to avoid accepting that the relationship is over? Or are you afraid that the bad feelings associated with heartbreak will never go away?

That fear makes you anxious, and keeps you feeling bad for longer. The burden of your heartbreak has grown heavier, and a vicious circle has been established.

• LIVING HAPPILY AFTER YOUR BREAK-UP

A good way of giving yourself a boost - and coping with complicated feelings - is to imagine a bright future.

In heartbreak, there is often a backlog of emotional learning to get through. Do one bit at a time. Your unconscious mind will protect you, and give you a rest so that you can deal with the next bit. You will learn to step out of the memories, leave them behind, and start a new life.

Breaking heart can happen in everyones life but we should try to come out of that depressed stage and start a new life.Broken heart can be mended fast not as fast as you think it will but still it can be mended .

There will be many persons over therewho wishes to take are of you, love you ,care for you,makes you laugh...open your eyes and find that correct person and stay happy.