Top 10 (realistic) reasons Bakit Hindi Ka Crush ng Crush Mo
1. Lying What You Really Want
You really like this guy, but you don't want to scare him off. Maybe you're scared to be vulnerable because you recently got hurt by someone else. So, you insist to this dude that you don't want a relationship because you think it's what he wants to hear. Months go by and you can't help wondering why he won't make things legit - until he does with someone else and then you're furious. But can you really blame the guy?! If you're actively telling a guy you don't want a relationship, he's going to think you don't want a relationship! So he's going to be casual with you for a while until he meets someone who does want one. When you say something like that, you're not putting off a sexy, I don't care vibe. You're basically telling the dude that you only want something casual - so don't be surprised when he listens.
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2. He Knows You Will
I used to have a friend who was hanging out with this dude for over a year. She treated him like he is her boyfriend... but he didn't treat her like she's his girlfriend. She did everything for him, doting on him, making him food, giving him rides, sexual stuff... all while letting him do whatever he wanted on the side. Then she wondered why he wouldn't make her his girlfriend. Look, ladies: if you're going to do this, the dude then knows that he can do whatever he wants and you'll still be there, no matter what. This is not good. He's a jerk for taking advantage of your feelings, but you also need to stand up for yourself. Don't let this happen! If he won't sacrifice things for you, don't' sacrifice things for him.
3. You Easily Get Hooked
Unfortunately, with most guys, if you want them to get serious about you, you can't make everything about hooking up. If you do, they'll assume that's all you want, too, even if it isn't. I know it stinks, but it's also very true and happens way too often. If you're seriously interested in a guy, ask him to go out somewhere the first time instead of agreeing to "watch a movie" with him at home. He might even think you do it to all the guys you met.
4. Not Ready For Commitment
Maybe this dude just got out of a long relationship and he wants to be single for a while. Maybe he got really hurt before and he doesn't want it to happen again. Whatever the reason, your crush just might not want this kind of commitment at the moment. In that case, you can either give him time or move on and meet someone who is ready.
5. You're Trying Too Hard
You'll do anything just for him to notice you. Its trying too hard, like making so much effort even when you are not still on! Guys hate that, they find it ridiculous. Its like you are inviting derision. He may find you completely absurd. 6. Giving Off The Wrong Signals Even if you really care about a dude, it's totally possible that you're sending the wrong signals, causing him to think that you're not interested. Whether it's because you're shy, awkward, don't want to seem to vulnerable or don't want to scare him off, you could be unintentionally ruining your chance at a relationship. Don't be afraid to let him know what you want.
7. Not Really Over His Ex Yet
Sometimes, even if a guy says he's over his ex, he's lying. We all lie about our exes, right? If your crush is being super casual with you and you know he recently ended a relationship with someone else, be wary of this. He could still be pining over his ex, wishing she would come back to him. In that case, it sometimes doesn't even matter how much he likes you... this is something he needs to figure out on his own.
8. You're Too Clingy
I'll just say it: being too clingy or needy is annoying. Guys don't dig it, even if they really dig you. One of my guy friends recently was hanging out with a girl he really liked... until he realized how needy she was. She wanted to see him every night, text all day long, involve him in major PDA everywhere they went... it was just too much. He felt suffocated and was nervous that things would get worse if they got serious. Look, it's totally fine to tell someone you really like them, but it's also important to give people a little space.
9. He Likes Someone Else
Maybe he has a girlfriend you don't know about or maybe he's pursuing another girl he likes more than you and is using you as a distraction or backup or maybe thats the reason he doesn't see you at the picture. I know that sounds harsh, but it happens. If you think he's seeing other girls, totally like someone or has a girlfriend he would die for, get out of there.
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10. He Just Isn't That Into You
Sometimes, there are no hidden reasons as to why a guy isn't dating you. Sometimes it's as simple as this: he just doesn't like you. I know that's really hard to hear, but it could also be true. You can't force anyone to like you and sometimes, things just don't work out the way you want them to.
