Relationship Advice

Chapter 4!

This chapter is going to be about the Do's and Don't's of a first time relationship! Enjoy! If this is helpful to anyone let me know!

Do's i guess(not really a list more like a summary ish thing)
Make sure your partner knows that they need to treat you with respect. Like they would treat their role model. dont shove it down their throat, just dont let them walk all over you. At all times if you are really into that person, let them know!! Just do whatever to make them know you have feelings for them. Whether it be sending a text just giving a compliment, just keep them sure that you are interested. If the relationship is long distance, shoot them a cute text, call them and just make them feel special, or even facetime them or Skype. When you see them(if you do)in person make it all about them, as hard as this may be, dont be awkward either! Just try to act like your around your best friend, but remember its your partner so be affectionate. If you JUST started dating try not to take things too fast. Holding hands is a good way of showing affection and even loyalty if your alone or in public without being all PDA and stuff haha. If you have been your first relationship for a while and you want to try new things or you just want to kiss them just either slyly bring it up without hinting anything or.....JUST DO IT. haha but seriously. And remember in a relationship if youre both not happy or if one of you isnt, yall cuties gotta talk it out!!

(list ish of Don't's)
Don't push yourself away because this is new for you, know that its completely normal to date and first timers always feel this way so just fo for it.

Dont push your partner into doing anything they dont want to do, but dont let them do the same to you.

Don't go into a relationship not knowing ANYTHING about the person, you dont have to know a lot, just bw careful because some people aren't who they seem to be.

Don't let them get away with things they shouldn't be and just dont do things you shouldn't be doing.(self explanatory)

Don't lead them on. With anything. it will just hurt them and make you the bad guy. seriously.

Don't get super uptight and jealous when your partner is talking to another person(you all know what i mean) its normal to get jealous but unless flirting happens dont make a huge scene about it.

Dont have secrets about the way you feel towards them or really anything that could ruin trust. Seriously just tell them whatever it is and CALMLY talk it out.

Don't cheat.(self explanatory)

Don't blow up if youre having an arguement. Try to keep both of you calm and just talk it out. if that doesnt work give one another some space.

Don't make fun of them at all. If its a thing you both do to each other than dont over do it because you may not know but you could be hurting them.

Dont make it always about you! make it even split! 50/50!!!

Don't rush into anything, this is your first everything in a relationship with this person, treat it like your first time trying a certain type of food. You hesitate and maybe put it off a few times until you are confident about trying it.

If your partner has a mental illness such as: depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, eating disorder, or even paranoia and it acts up all the time. Get them help, seriously. They may seem like they dont want it but they most likely probably do and regardless if they do or dont, they need it.

Don't just always assume they are happy. Its okay to ask how they are doing and if they are okay😊

Don't put things off. MAKE SURE if there is ANYTHING that comes to your mind about the relationship that you talk about it.

Don't not tell your partner that its okay for them to communicate with you about the relationship or things they may want to change, if you dont that can and most likely will lead to the relationship spiralling downwards.

Dont flirt with others. I dont care if you are a "flirty person" that is a great way to make your partner feel jealous, worthless, neglected, like they have been used and just full of anxiety and self doubt.

Dont do anthing to make them lose trust in you. The truth, even though it may be hard to give, is better than one lie ruining built up trust.

HEY you guy its Torri!! if i missed anything that any of you may have been curious about in this chapter comment or just pm me! i hope this book is helpful to some people❤