Deep in the Feels

Overbearing parents

(This was something I had previously written)

I do not see the porpoises in the things you discipline the child for. I understand as a parent you
have 'good intentions' for your kids but you can only inhibit them from so much. A simple thing, for example like painting your nails black can represent something to you deterring you from letting your child do it. But it is also taking a simple pleasure of adolescence from your child. Being a parent means you have to be strict but it also means you must be LENIENT. This means even if YOU feel negatively towards something doesn't mean it's going to have a negative impact on the kid.

The way you act to and around you child impacts them more than letting them do a simple thing. If you child speaks to you and you receive it as a negative attitude and then in response wrongly punish her, but in actuality it was only a statement. The punishment is then pushing your child farther from you. In a mother daughter relationship there must be trust and I can not see you making a valiant effort to rebuild this trust in a positive way. What I see is a mother who is blind to the feelings of her own child.

This results in the hatred we now see. Be the best parent you can be, and from an adolescent perspective I can't see you trying in the right direction. A child's adolescents is the most delicate time of their life. Anything you do could have a positive or negative effect on them, you must be willing to loosen the reins slightly as they grow. Tight reins on a child during a very rebellious point in their life often leads to trouble with the law, etc. some people are more rebellious than others.This means that right now the thing she really needs in her life is a kind lenient understanding mother figure.