When your mother tells you you look pretty
smile and say thanks mum
do not tell her that you don't really care how beautiful you look because: 1) you know your worth, and 2) your confidence doesn't come from how attractive others find you.
When your mother tells you what to wear
give in and let her dress you like a doll.
Do not fight for your right to dress how you please; deny yourself the ability to represent yourself the way you feel comfortable. Wear the goddamn dress to the designated place.
When your mother tells you you've lost weight
laugh and crack a joke.
Do not tell her how rude and unnecessary her comment is, or that you wish she'd stop placing so much value on your looks, because it's taken you a long time, but you've finally learned your weight does not define you or your beauty.
When your mother says you need to be eating more
tell her she's right and take something out the the freezer and stare into her eyes and fucking eat
do not say you aren't hungry and tell her to mind her own business because you she can do damned well as she pleases.
Do not remind her that you no longer share her body.
Do not remind her that her opinion doesn't matter anymore.
Do not remind her you are not her mirror.
