People can sympathise but not relate. There's a huge difference between hearing my story from a third person and understanding my story. They told me "It's just a breakup. Its just a boy. You're going to forget about this and you're going to move on". My own sister told me whatever happened was good and for the good. This is not something anybody should ever say to anyone who's going through a heartbreak. So, you're telling me that him cheating on me and me getting hurt was for the good? Really? Well, guess what, genius? It's not! It's so not. The thing is that maybe I'll know or not know whether I'll be okay but telling me that my pain, the hurt I want through was for the good made me feel like dying all over. I was already dying inside. I had enough problems. So the least you can do is not add on to it. Telling me it will be okay doesn't make feel better. It doesn't help me. It made me feel worse. The future..dude, I'm not even thinking about the future. Forget about the future. If you want someone to feel okay, you have to concentrate on the 'NOW' not tomorrow! Yes, I will be okay somewhere in the future but giving me assurance about the future nobody knows about doesn't make me feel good 'NOW'. You telling me it's going to be okay is not going to lessen my pain. It's not helping me anyway.
Stop romanticising heartbreak. Stop telling me to feel happy because I'll be actually happy 20 years from now. Stop telling me that I will find someone better. Because I don't care about finding someone better. That is the last thing on my mind right now. How can you expect someone to be happy when they are already in love with the person causing the heartbreak? Stop telling people heartbreak is stupid because it's not! It's dangerous! Ever heard of a Brokenheart syndrome, also called stress-induced cardiomyopathy or takotsubo cardiomyopathy? It can strike even if you’re healthy. (Tako tsubo, by the way, are octopus traps that resemble the pot-like shape of the stricken heart.)Women are more likely than men to experience the sudden, intense chest pain — the reaction to a surge of stress hormones — that can be caused by an emotionally stressful event. It could be the death of a loved one or even a divorce, breakup or physical separation, betrayal or romantic rejection. It could even happen after a good shock (like winning the lottery.) This syndrome is scientifically proven to cause death. It can lead to depression. It led me to depression. It leads to suicidal tendencies. This issue is serious. Heartbreak isn't beautiful. It isn't a heart warming poetry. It is breaking down in the middle of a busy street. It's seeing faces on all people you pass by. It's feeling okay for weeks at time and then all of a sudden, you feel the ghost of their lips on your neck and chocking on the memories of their presence. It's waking up from dreams of them coming back and screaming on the middle of the night because your chest aches like a rotten tooth. Stop using people like they're objects. A heart isn't a cigarette. You can't just light it up and then stomp it out when you're done. Don't act like anything about heartbreak is beautiful, because I wouldn't wish that feeling upon my worst of enemies. Yes, it is that bad. Heartbreak is a mental health issue and it’s time to take a stand against it!
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