Getting to Know Bree

The Truth About Pregnancy

I thought pregnancy was supposed to be about you and your spouse while family waiting eagerly to meet the baby. How wrong was I!

1.) People will think that they know more about your pregnancy than you do and will literally try to tell you all what you should be doing while pregnant. Lemme tell you something, family or nah, don't listen to them and tell them that you'll consider what they're saying, but you're gonna do what you feel like doing. This is your body, so take some control and don't let people talk down to you.

2.) Picking a baby name is more difficult than I have realized. I have already named my baby, me and my boyfriend both love the name, but you know what? There is a certain side of the family who thinks the name is dumb is tries to encourage us to go for whatever they are choosing. Now, this is where you politely- unlike me- tell them that you and your spouse have already agreed on a name... I just kinda blew up in their faces and told them that I didn't have sex with them so they can't tell me anything. XD

3.) You think that hormones are no big deal, if you're anything like me and didn't really cry during periods except for when the pain is too much. Girl, I cried for three hours because I baked cookies and no one wanted to eat them. I cry when I see a kinda sad commercial, I cry when I see my cats doing something cute, I cry for no reason. And I get angry for no reason and blow up on whoever is near, sadly my boyfriend is the one I yell at all the time.

4.) When a baby kicks, it's the most beautiful thing in the world. Hearing the heartbeat and seeing them on the ultrasound, you feel as though your heart is gonna burst and you feel like days are slowly passing and it can't hurry up enough so that you can see your baby. But in all reality, we all know we're going to miss these little moments. Because this is probably the longest time your kid is going to stay quiet.

5.) The fear of labor is real. I can't handle pain and I feel like most of us can't handle pain too well. I'm all excited for my baby to arrive, it's just the hours of process to get him here that has me worried and scared. And then, I try to imagine the pain, like prepare myself and guys, I don't know. Who feels me though? WHO IS GOING THROUGH THIS???

6.) Being a young, newly expected mother, family members be trying to get some free daycare, using the excuse that 'you need the experience'. Don't give in if you know this is the same person that leaves their kid for days just so they can hoe around- I have family like this... but I don't do no babysitting for free. No, it's fifty dollars per kid.... they don't ask me to babysit and I don't care.

7.) People be wanting to touch your stomach. I know it's exciting to feel the baby kick, and I let only a few trusted friends and family touch my stomach, but everybody wants to touch you. It's so weird and I'm so glad that my little boy doesn't kick for anyone. My kid is a jerk, and if you put your hand on my stomach he will sit still just in spite. But seriously, this is still your body, so if you don't feel comfortable with someone touching you, tell them. If they get offended, mock them by rubbing their stomach and talk to their food baby.

8.) Not everyone has morning sickness. When I talk to my other pregnant friends, they had all asked me about my morning sickness, and I didn't have any. It felt so awkward because here they are, sick all the time and I'm feeling fine. So, it made me feel like I was bragging about it and that lead me to being uncomfortable talking to them about my pregnancy. But girl, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Don't think you're bragging, and if you are, you better be knocking on some wood!

9.) Sleep is for the weak. I'm kidding, it's just that eventually, you'll get to that point in pregnancy that you can't get comfortable so you stay up most of the night. I'll be tossing and turning majority of the night and can't get comfortable ever. I don't know how I sleep tbh.

10.) I stay in the bathroom. Being pregnant means that you have to pee. And this doesn't mean like a normal person. You're going to be in the bathroom all the time and you'll be surprised about how many times that you have to pee a day! It's insane. If someone tries to tell you that you have a bad bladder, just tell them "at least I don't pee on myself every time I stand up". 
    I'm kidding don't say that.

11.) Pregnancy brain is real. For everyone who tries to tell you it doesn't exists obviously never had children. And if they are a parent, it's because they did drugs throughout the pregnancy... Not always the case, they could big headed. Just write everything down and you will have the attention span of a goldfish. I thought I was already bad, no, pregnancy brain has me talking to someone about one thing, mid-sentence I'll see something that reminds me of another thing and I'll start talking about that. I have witnesses, it's real. There's no help for you. Wait six months after baby is born and it might get better. But by then, you'll already be insane.

Yes I know that this is a little different than telling you straight up facts about me, instead, I just put in a few bullet points of what I have to deal with through pregnancy and if you're going through the same thing and can relate, then I gave some helpful tips. Because everyone wants to make it out that the only hard thing about pregnancy is labor... I wish that were true. But there are also so many great things along with it. Just remember this is your kid and you raise them however you want. If it's not the person that helped create this life, then their opinion never mattered in the first place.

Also, this gives me a good time to reflect on who thought it was a good idea to make me a mom? I swear, I'm going to have a sarcastic child that gives bad advice XD