It is a crisis
Chris Brown may lament “these hoes ain’t loyal,” but the truth goes a whole lot deeper.
The truth is
We find asylum from vulnerability
In casual,
Undefined relationships that boast no expectations
Yet in our deeper desire to know and be known by another We unfairly apply rules of commitment to casual romances.
We want honesty without making promises; we want respect without integrity and we want loyalty without commitment.
Assessing important characteristics of a person while casually dating is almost impossible.
Even Chris Brown is struggling to make sense of it.
He wants loyalty in a woman, but is disappointed to find "these hoes ain't loyal".
His frustration sets the stage for a much deeper Conversation about how we go about finding qualities in a person that can ultimately sustain a relationship.
Because, why should a “hoe” be loyal when there’s no commitment?
By definition
Loyalty is “to be faithful or devoted to someone or something.”
Casual dating, then, can’t possibly provide
A healthy framework for a woman to be loyal to a man,
Or vice versa.
Loyalty implies that some commitment to being faithful or devoted has been established.
Loyalty has different implications
In our new urban context.
It has become synonymous with “having somebody’s back.”
When a man says he’s looking for a woman who has his back,
He’s expressing the desire to be supported unconditionally, To know that a woman sees his potential,
Even if he’s not fully living up to it in the moment.
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