Random Thoughts

five - advice from dad

Dedicated to:  _shenanigans 

Thank you so so much for making the cover of Random Thoughts =)) xoxo

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a dad's advice to his daughter (cto)

Date a boy who makes you happy, but marry him only if he makes you laugh deep-belly rumbles that hurt your ribs as they expand outwards. 

Date him when he sees that you're hurting and he gives you a moment to feel that pain like a handprint spreading across your consciousness, marry him only if he can make you smile even while you're gross sobbing.

The world is not a kind place. You will feel a lot of pain. Make sure you are with someone who makes it all bearable. Humor is an excellent gauge of intelligence. Life gets boring. Find someone who makes the banal interesting.

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Before you say YES, get him angry. See him scared. See him wanting. See him sick. Stress changes a person. Find out if he drinks, and if he does, get him drunk - you'll learn more about his sober thoughts. Discover his addictions. See if he puts you in front of them.

You can't change people, baby girl. If they are made one way, it doesn't just wear off. If you hate how he acts when he's out of it now, you're going to hate it much worse eight years down the road.

You might love him to bits but it doesn't change that some people just don't fit.

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Trust  your instincts.

If he ever makes you feel unsafe, don't make excuses, just get up and leave. That's all there is to it. 

It's better to be safe than sorry.