Women Are People Too

we don't dress for men

I, as a woman, know that sometimes women like to dress up for their man. Or men in general. Make themselves look desirable and feel sexy about themselves. Now I can't speak for all women, but for me personally, I find myself rarely dressing for men. 

You ever wear a cute new dress, curl your hair, and put on your face and go out into the wild only to be faced with questions like "what are you so dressed up for?" "who are you trying to impress?" ? Yeah maybe I was just in a good mood and felt like looking cute. Maybe I wore this outfit and curled my hair because I was feeling confident and sexy. When I feel like dressing up and getting fancy, I always tell my boyfriend I only dress in part for him, that I dress mostly for myself. 

While on the subject, once again I can only speak for myself, but from my point of view, women don't dress for men; they dress for other women. They want to look better than the girl next door; they want those other women to admire their style and want what they have. Women don't want to be made to feel inferior to other women. They do dress to impress but usually not men. 

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Now on to a different topic of the same subject. Though, in my opinion, women dress to feel confidence in themselves or to impress other women, the world is under the assumption that women dress to make men want them. To seduce them when that is more than likely not their intention. No matter what a woman wears or her intentions with her attire, she should never be made to feel intimidated, threatened, or uncomfortable. No matter how short your skirt, how heavy your makeup, or high your heels gives any man the right to call out perverse comments, cop a feel, or continue to make unwanted advances after you've turned him down. 

My mom often criticizes, I know she cares but it still bugs me, about my wardrobe. She talks about the perverse men in the world and how something could happen to me. And I always reply with something along the lines of there is nothing wrong with what I'm wearing; I look absolutely adorable. I wear what I wear because it makes me feel good about myself not for men to look upon. What I wear shouldn't matter. I'm not doing anything wrong, and you're not doing anything wrong either. They are. They're wrong. 

We should teach our girls to become women that know that they have every right to dress how ever they please that makes them feel confident in their own skin. And we should teach our boys to become men that respect women and their wishes. 

You are all beautiful women! Keep doing you!

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Thanks so much reading! Like, comment, vote, and all the things!

xx Shannon =)