I use rules to make an unpredictable world more predictable and concrete. some of them apply to everyday life, like: purple notebook is for English while blue is for marine studies, or when someone says "how are you?" I say, "good how are you?" even though I find myself honestly not caring too much.
I make most of my rules. I say I am sorry if I make my friends mad. I do not yell if my Personal Space is invaded, I tell the person so. if I do not have any words of my own, I use someone else's like Shakespeare or Dr. Seuss or a character from Frozen or Atlantis. because my language centers dislike making coherent sentences to speak, my memory centers remember quotes like "All good things, all good things" said by Olaf and I can say them easier.
some rules are made by my adults. like my youth pastor who tells me that even on the off chance I am in a group where she is not, I am still required to say at least two answers or somehow participate in conversation. or when my other adult at the pool (not swim coach) tells me that I need to put my face in the water. these are not rules I so much like or want to follow, but I do. sometimes the rules are applied to every situation of its kind. sometimes they are not, like when my youth pastor tells me, "fake it until you make it, that's the rule for this game" it only last for this game whereas talking in groups lasts forever.
there are basic rules, like I need to look at someone's eyes (which I almost never do) or I need to speak when spoken to. some I make some I don't. I have rules I follow during conversation, such as I need time to construct my answer if you do not want it in pieces or I need a moment to register that what was said is a question. people do not know of these rules unless they know me well enough.
