Emotionally connecting with someone is one of the most intimate moments in life. Being burner able is a true sign of masculinity. Unapologetically screaming your short comings rather than bolstering in your successes. It's second nature. He was like zuko. Pretty yet scorched in betrayal. He wanted more than love. He wanted to live without fear without question and with the certainty that the only tommorow possible,was one with him.
Personify him through others. Let him be your muse and they the hollow form. It's not that he was a bad guy, he was just a guy who's had bad done in him; unsure of how to love fully. Sure of only the ailments that led him to feel what's he felt. He's just a victim. A victim of love. Looking into someone eyes and seeing them for them,is scary because then he's moved on. And whether he's ready to move on,is he question that continues to leave him stilted.