Maggie's Guide to Teenage Girl Survival

Relationship Problems (pt. 1)

I have gone through a great deal of relationship troubles. Just friends, friends with benefits, boyfriends, girlfriends, cheating, and so on. I am here to say: IT SUCKS. In this particular chapter I'm going to be talking about distance. I don't know a whole ton about distance because I know I'm not the best at it, nor will I probably ever be. But I was just recently away in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. My boyfriend and I weren't going to see eachother for 3 weeks, and now I know that seems like not a lot, but it really did feel like it. Yes we would text and call and facetime, but its never the same. You can't hold their hand, be in their arms, kiss their lips....you can't do any of those things. It physically hurts. Hearing their voice on the phone can almost make everything worse too. Hearing their voice breaks you because you just want to be with them so bad. During that "short" period of distance, we had a few problems. Since I was an hour ahead, and he worked late, we couldn't talk much. He would get home at 11:30pm his time and it would be 12:30am my time; and then he'd have to shower and eat and calm down from the work day. We wouldn't actually talk until like 1-1:30am (my time). The whole time we'd "talk" he would play video games (mostly Destiny and Fortnite *eye roll*). Then a whole bunch of lying came into play. I decided to just go to bed and tell him so I fell asleep 10:30ish my time and the time I woke up the next morning (9:30), my boyfriend was still sleeping. I didn't care because it was early his time. So I waited, and waited, and waited. By 11:00am my time I called him.  

I ended up waking him up and he got mad at me. He told me that he couldn't sleep last night so he played video games with our best friend until 3:30 in the morning. I said alright but we stayed on the phone call, he knew I felt bad, and I knew he was mad, but we stayed on the phone, even though we didn't say much. Now, my boyfriend and I's best friend is my closest guy friend. He didn't understand girls much, but I knew him since I was little and he's like a brother to me. We talk lots. Later that day I was talking to our best friend and he told me that my boyfriend didn't bother to try to sleep they just played Fortnite together as soon as they got home. I. Was. Pissed. So what did I do? I bitched at him. If there is one thing I do not tolerate in the slightest, its lying. I bitched and I bitched and I bitched. We had a big fight that night. We didn't talk the next day either. I felt horrible. I felt like everything was falling apart and there was no way to save our relationship. I was hopeless. Later that night he called me, waking me up, but I didn't care, I was just glad he called. We sorted things out and things were on the track to becoming normal, it felt awkward the next few days, but 3 or 4 days later everything was 100% back to normal. Coming home made it even better.

Since then, me and my boyfriend have been rock solid. Its our 6 month on August 2nd and I couldn't be happier to spend those months with him. There's no one I truly would rather be with. Now, I know I over reacted a bunch about the Fortnite part, but I do not tolerate lying. Its not a thing I will ever tolerate. 

My moral in my little story is keep pushing forward. Being far away from your significant other can be very difficult and things can definitely feel like they are falling apart. The truth is that they will if you give up on the other person. You have to be strong whether you want to or not. If you truly love someone and want to be with them, you have to love them even when you don't feel like it in the moment. Also, the moment you can be with them again is going to make everything feel normal, sometimes even better than normal.

Thanks for reading! I hope you enjoyed, understood, and took something out of this chapter. Let me know if you have any specific problems or questions you want answered, comment below or PM me. Thanks so much!!
-Maggie