Ever wonder why people having an affair? Honestly, I never knew it until it almost happened to me. In my life, I believe loving someone is hard enough and it's like a full-time work. Because we must loyal and taking a good care everyday. So I never imagine how can I love somebody else in the same time. But then the time when we feel alone, create a situation where we meet someone who can fill our loneliness. If we strong enough, we won't be trapped with new relationship that we called AN AFFAIR.
Sometimes, an affair is not always because of sexual problems. Other possibilities can happen. Another people can also be the main reason. Like family matters that bothers our relationship, friends, work, or anything. People also change because of unusual circumstances. That's why a Psychologist ever said that an affair cannot be blame just to one person. Everyone in those relationship making contribution to what happen. There is a trigger of one side to another. Both woman and man is wrong. Also another aspect, like another woman/man, condition, etc. is also wrong. What should we do is stop blaming. We should do some self-reflection. Communicate what is the main problem and how can you resolve it. What is your significant other's need and what do you want, you both must figure this out.
A problem can not be fixed in one night. Also, it can't be fixed if you didn't say what you want and what you need. You must not forget when you both started a relationship, you both very understanding and taking care of each other. So why don't you elate to recover your love once again like the first time you working on. If something's broken, we still have a chance to rebuild it. Don't let it broke without trying, because maybe it will make you regret. But if everything couldn't be fixed until you gave it your all, then maybe what you need is separation.
Stay on a relationship that didn't make you happy is wrong. Feel alone when you do have a partner is also wrong. Lack of communication is very wrong. You both in a relationship together, so you must working on it together too. Start learning each other's personalities and taking notes what's important. Tell how much you love your significant other everyday, give them hug. Give them warm smile, and support their goals. When they had a problem, be there and let them know that you're not going anywhere and tell : IT'S OKAY, EVERYTHING"S GONNA BE ALRIGHT. IT WILL PASSED SOON. Be honest about everything you feel. Because honesty is much better that lies. Lies will drag you down to the darkest side.
Let's #helpothers to avoid an affair with our passion in love and give them sincere affection.
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Ginn, October 6//2018
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Kurgu OlmayanSometimes we need help from others to solve our problems. That's why I started this #helpothers movement to give a little hand for you. So that you won't feel alone and feel being helped by my words. I believe we're strong enough to go through this...
