The Girl Code

What CRUSHES All Of Us

Hey! I hope you guys think this is helpful so far. Okay, so in case you didn’t get the pun in the title, this chapter will tackle what we all need to know about- crushes. Even if you’re not dying to talk to him and you don’t stalk him virtually, if you think a guy is cute and wouldn’t mind being more than friends, you have a crush.

Most girls can’t get it out when they have a crush. A good tactic? Observe not just him, but how he is toward you for some time.

First two weeks. For the first two weeks when you find a guy you start crushing on, try not to TRY to be close if you talk to eachother. Just let to relationship flow in naturally. Don't worry if it doesn't, you might just have to wait until he begins to show interest.

First month. After a good month of crushing and talking normally, drop very sudle hints that you like him. Sudle meaning smile a lot, but in a soft and natural way. A friendly way. Make sure he's okay. Hey, any good girlfriend would care. If there's anything going on with him, just because you're not best friends doesn't mean you should back off, unless he tells you to. Then, you just stop asking about it but keep doing what you're doing. Try to help him in some way, then he'll start to trust you.

If he's already showed interest, then it's time. Ask how to hang out! I hate it when my girlfriends tell me about a guy they like who's flirting with them but then they're scared to ask him out. He's showing signs for a reason, girls! We need to stop being so vunerable to guys! Do you know what feels better than a perfect hair day, an amazing grade and getting a lot of readers on Wattpad combined? When a guy is happy you asked him out and he says yes! Guys are so much weaker than we think, and he might be scared to ask you, too. So if he doesn't ask, you should! It's 2012, girls are taking over the world!

First two months. If you haven't become at least friends with him yet, you really should! Like I said, guys are weaker than we think. He may not approach you even if he likes you, too. But, if he treats you like crap, then I'm sorry honey, he's not worth a second look. Every girl needs a guy needs a guy that makes her feel like she's more than enough for him, and if he hasn't even shown an intrest in respecting you, then he's wasting space in you're head when you think about him! I'll post another chapter about breaking up and/or getting over someone.

If you guys have already hung out, then you're on the right path! If you haven't gone out a a date already, now's the time to ask him. I know you may be nervous, but remember: If you feel like the timing is right, it is. If you think hr really likes you, he does. If you want to ask him it, do it! You could be wasting time if you're waiting for him to ask you. And if he does ask you, then good for you!

You should have a crush on a guy no longer than 4 months if you're not yet in a relationship with him or at least gone out on a date. Trust me, if you crush any longer and nothing's happening, then you'll look back on this and realise it was a waste of you're time and if you want a relationship, timing is everything.

They say that each person is fancied by at least one person at all times, whether or not they know or whether or not it's the same person. You know thoose white spots on you're nails? It's magic, honey. It means that someone's crushing on you so paint thoose nails and stand up straight. Even if you're not confident, don't worry. They say that nobody will love you if you don't love yourself and guess what? They're lying. People love you even more when you love yourself. Maybe love enough to ask you out! And if that doesn't encourage you to love yourself, maybe the fact that you're low self confidence is hurting someone will. Or the fact that you're lucky enough to even have some type of love life, which means something. Nobodys ugly. People are just beautiful in different ways, everyone's unuiqe. You know who the most beautiful people are? Thoose who don't realise it.

Okay, how did this become about self esteem? Anyways, if you're not crushing but suspect you're being crushed on, here are the signs that someone likes you.

1) The most obvious sign that a guy likes you is when he wants to spen a lot of time with you. Even if he just asks you to eat lunch with him, keep in mind that he could be thinking it as an in- school date.

2)When he compliments you. Guys attentions spans are smaller than girls, as you probably know. So it doesn't mean anything when you get a haircut or new outfit or bag and he doesn't notice. It's when he does pick up on theese things that it means something. So, take it as a gift, because a lot of guys don't even compliment girls they like. The good guys do.

3)You can make him happy. When you can change his mood from derpressed to hysterically laughing in a minute, that's a HUGE sign he likes you. That means he acknowlodges you care and he's happy about it. You should be, too!

4)If he looks at you constantly, it's not promised that he likes you. Ecspecially if he stares alot, he might just be zoning out. But, don't lose hope just yet! When he looks at you and smiled when you look at him, combined with all of theese signs, you've DEFENITLY got a crusher on you're hands. Now all you havetp do is decide whethere or not you like him back, and then everything will flow perfectly. If he doesn't ask you, like I said, take the initiative.

Another thing? Guys prefer a girl who's confident in their relationship. So, if you suspect that there's someone else in the picture, give him the benefit of the dought for the first and second time. If it keeps happening, you might need to investigate a bit. But, remember, if you're not together, you can't really do anything. The minute he goes to another girl, it's done. Whether or not he liked you before or he still does, he has to remain loyal to her just like you'd want him to be loyal to you if you were in her place.

Keep in mind, "There is a line between having a crush on somebody and stalking them." (I give extremly true quote credit to Melanie Inglesias). If you know his last Facebook post and scheduele, you're border line stalking him. Remember that if it's right, you two I mean, it'll come in naturally. The fact that you have all this knowledge about him won't help anything in reality, even of it does in your mind. Also remember that any healthy relationship requires trust and nurturing, as well as space. Not too much and not to little lets him know that you trust him but you also care about him.

Okay, There it is. All my tips for your crush needs. For relationship questions? Break up advice? Getting over a douche? I'll post thoose, they're all seperate chapters. Stay beautiful <3