Honey

The unspoken words.

There is something refreshing about a heartbreak but very tormented as well,

See we all go through at least one heart break and yet we don't talk about the actual effects it has on us, we can try and place it onto words but we never actually find the right ones.

I'll take this in parts shall I?

Refreshing

The refreshing part of the heartbreaks are a little after we actually have our hearts broke, see we go through the stage where we look back and notive the flaws, we beat our selves up over the fact that we didn't see the faults and flaws that the significant other showed and we think to ourselves that if we had just seen it earlier we would?

What?

What would we do?

Break up with them, I hardly believe that.

We are so in love that we are blinded and so when we believe that we could have broken it off with them, I have to admit we are dumb and I admit that I have done this too.

another refreshing part would be when we move on, i mean as if we move on.

We loved that other person, I mean we really loved them and so when we move on, we still think about the other person.

This isn't a bad part, it isn't cheating on your new partner.

It isn't lying or hurting anyones pride.

When we believe we are happy, out bodys, hearts and minds go along with it.

So when we think back to the ex, we remember the good things, if we read quotes and think back to them then we remember the bad things.

We see them in our dreams and we see them in ourselves.

Tormented

I decided to move onto the tormented part because lets be honest, this one sticks around longer than the Refreshing.

Being tormented when we leave a relationship can kill people and I mean it can ruin someone to the core.

My mother told me that a heart break should stop around the 3 month period, roughly.

I call bullshit, I mean I love my mother and believe her but this just isn't it.

I can promise on my life that a heart break can last longer than that, I know mine did.

The Destruction of a heartbreak is what kills us, our mental state, our self love and our pride.

We start to believe that we weren't any good or that we couldn't be that person that they needed and so we try to up our self love.

We try to glow up?

We go to the gym, eat better, buy new clothes, change a our hairstyle, get that piercing or tattoo...I don't know what it was for you but it is like this for everyone.

And yet what we don't know is that we are causing destruction and torment, not self love.

Because here we are, changing ourselves and for what, trying to show them what they are missing, i call bull.

We are giving them attention, we are giving the heartbreakers our attention.

And we need to sto, block them, delete their contact information and don't change.

Change when you have healed and You won't be fully healed or fully embraced in your self love because these heart breakers will always hold you back.

When we leave someone in the paste, they take a piece of us with them and we can't stop that.

So please embrace the heart break and it's going to hurt and your going to want to move on fast or change but that comes after all the Torment and all the Refreshing...change for you and only you.

K.M