Hey. Umm, sorry bout the break but I just decided to share this speech with y'all. You can skip it if you like but this is for peeps with low self-esteem or the ones going through any form of depression. If you're gonna vote this, read it first or you can just skip it because I don't want any votes if you ain't gonna read it. I'm sure at least, someone will read it.
Self Motivation
The best kind of motivation is self-motivation.
To demonstrate this point, let’s consider two scenarios you’ve likely experienced:
1. You have something you have to do . You’re not excited or passionate about it, but you know you need to get it done. This feeling of obligation motivates you to work hard to complete the task;
2. You have something you get to do . You’re interested in your task—you might have even assigned this task for yourself rather than receiving it from someone else—and you are happy to put in the time and effort to complete it.
In which scenario are you more effective? In which scenario are you more efficient? And, in which scenario do you feel the most fulfilled?
I’m willing to bet that your answer to each of those questions is Scenario 2.
It likely won’t come as a surprise that doing something for its own sake and for your own purposes is likely to be more fulfilling, enjoyable, and successful than doing something to meet external standards or to please others.
The feeling described in Scenario 2 is that of being self-motivated . Read on to learn more about self-motivation and why it’s the most effective kind of motivation.
Self-Motivation and Emotional Intelligence
According to emotional intelligence expert Daniel Goleman, self-motivation is a key component of emotional intelligence . Emotional intelligence is the measure of one’s ability to recognize and manage his or her own emotions and the emotions of other people.
Self-motivation’s relevance to emotional intelligence highlights its role within our ability to understand ourselves, relate to others, and succeed in reaching our goals .
Goleman states that there are four components of motivation :
1. Achievement drive, or the personal drive to achieve, improve, and meet certain standards;
2. Commitment to your own personal goals;
3. Initiative, or the “readiness to act on opportunities”;
4. Optimism , or the tendency to look ahead and persevere with the belief that you can reach your goals (Skills You Need, n.d.).
5. Speaking of consequences, Geller considers “consequences” to be one of four vital “C” words that underpin self-motivation:
1. Consequences: To be self-motivated, you sincerely have to want the consequences associated with the actions you take rather than simply doing something to avoid negative consequences;
2. Competence: If you answer all three of the questions above with a “yes,” you will feel competent in your ability to get things done;
3. Choice: Having a sense of autonomy over your actions encourages self-motivation;
4. Community: Having social support and connections with others is critical for feeling motivated and believing in yourself and your power to achieve
