Lies. What are lies? Twenty seven people will give you twenty seven different answers but they would all be trying to say the same thing: a lie is not the truth. Someone once said a lie is the opposite of the truth... Um no, that's a lie. If the truth is : "my white cat fell of the balcony and died" then the opposite of that would be: "my white kitten rose to the balcony and lived" See my point? It's not necessarily the opposite but if I say :" my white cat got hit by a cab and died" now that would be a lie because it's definitely not the truth. Lies are dangerous. Like sin, I think every lie is a lie, no matter big or small. I believe every single human being has lied at least once in their lives, pastor, preacher, pope,priest, chief, president, every single human being. Now I agree sometimes you might have to tell a little 'white' lie to get out of an immediate situation and that's okay but there are people who lie without a need or reason, they just lie lie lie lie lie. I was once close to this person, a female, she was such a liar to the point where she became delusional and maybe even psychotic. This girl would come to my house and tell me the worse lies about her family and about my past classmates and in the moment I totally believed her. You see I was friends with this psycho for about four years, never realizing what kind of person she was until when I got pregnant she used to text me about what everyone else was saying then it dawned on me: how come people always talk about me around her? I mean if you are my friend you'd never uphold that for so long. I got curious and started reading into things that's when I realized how dangerous she was. I was the only person in her life who didn't know who she was and even after I found out I remained her friend because I am just that type of person but one day I reached my breaking point and kicked that psycho to the curb. I have no space in my life for lies. I always tell my man cheating is not what bothers me, lying does. If you see a female and you think y'all will fuck let me know so when that bitch feels like acting up I can shut her down real proper, but guys don't understand they just lie. Not saying he does, just generally speaking. I know a girl that lied to her man about being pregnant just to get money for an abortion and do you know how much more lies she had to tell ? ALOT. And P.S she's dumb because when they break up he'll forever think he has something over her head. Teenagers can be so dumb. But hold up, here I am talking about other people when I myself have lied many times to get out of situations and let me tell you,the truth would've solved everything so much quicker, those lies kept churning and growing until BAM!! It was one big drama, that's when I learned. Speak the truth at all times, sometimes the situation may seem darker when you speak to the truth but once the person get over that lie, it'll be all good. Some people will tell you that once you lie people will never trust you again, DONT listen to them! When you speak the truth a REAL person will respect your honesty, so if you lied then speak the truth that person will be hurt might even be betrayed but let me tell you this:a real person that's down for you will look past that. A lie has never solved a problem. If half the husbands had simply told their wives: "honey it's clear that this isn't working anymore, it's best we separate or get a divorce if you don't want that, that's fine by me but I've found someone else.." Or if half the wives had been honest and said :" babe we're broken and a divorce might not be the best thing for the kids but let's see other people..." ALOT of problems wouldn't have occurred. They'd both understand where they stand and move onwards, no one would harbor false hopes and dreams about a faithful partner. I could go on and on all damn day but it won't change the fact that a lie solves nothing.
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My grandmother often says " who laugh last laugh best" but I believe once the situation is funny I should laugh because I know people laugh at me all the time so why should I be philosophical and hold back? Oh hell no I'm about to enjoy this over a cup of ice cream. Anyway I remember when I was 13 I was good friends with this girl and her family. At that particular time I had my first major crush but he was much older he could go to jail and my ass could not take dick but anyway I told her regardlessly. Less than two weeks after that the entire neighborhood knew - and as you can guess they added and subtracted from the truth, by the time I heard it it was a totally different story about us having sex. I WAS 13!!!!! Now would you believe her mom was quick to judge me saying I wanted dick and all that ? Anyway to cut a long story short, her mom broke our friendship (this was long overdue anyway because she was as fake as hell, thank you for that miss D) she claimed I wasn't good company for her daughter. Years passed we both grew up, eventually starting saying hi to each other, it blew off but we were never to talked like before. About three years ago one day,I was on my way in the town when the passengers in the car started talking about this girl and oh my God. She was no longer my friend and I felt so ashamed. Whether the things were true or not, it was shameful to be associated with those kind of things yet her mother thought I wasn't good company. Ha! But wait the story isn't finished. When I got pregnant oh how they rejoiced at my so called "downfall", months later the mother who was such a 'Christian' in a prominent church got pregnant for a married man with 7 kids.....oops! But gentle people you know I don't promote judging so let's leave it there. Again when I got pregnant someone very close to me was quick to point out that she had expected yet months later her daughter got pregnant for a man with 12 children and did I mention he wasn't her 'personal man' oh no, she was in a serious relationship that the world knew about yet he wasn't the father . Oh how she cried and oh how her mother's words echoed in my head. Again, I don't promote judging but I hope you get the moral of the story though: don't be fucking quick to pass judgement on people's children knowing damn well you have one or two of your own. Understand this: children are unpredictable. Parents don't know what their children will become no matter how much they force them or how much money they pay to get them in the best schools. No one knows who a child will become in the future so always wish the best for people's children and keep your nose in your kitchen. The problem with society today: we seem to see everybody else's business while ours is as stink as the Buff Bay dump.
I'm not saying we don't all gossip because frankly my best friend and I talk about people all the time but know what to talk and when to stop. I never laugh at people, no matter the situation because I know how life is, the same shit you laugh at may turn right around and hit you in the face so damn hard you end up going crazy. No one wants that. I see the best in people and I give them the benefit of the doubt at all times. If they hurt me, that's life, if they don't that's also life. I can't be sitting around waiting for people to rise and fall whether they hurt me or not. I wish everyone luck in all they do. Someday I'll bring another child in this world and I want a lot of good to follow him so I'm doing all the good I can. You should try it to. It doesn't always pay but try it.
