Aromantic. [COMPLETED]

1: Explanation

Being aromantic is like living in a florist shop.

There are pretty flowers everywhere and some of them go together and look even prettier. You notice the different shades of red and green, different hues of blue and violet.

You do not want to date a flower.

Some people don't understand and may think you just haven't found 'the one' yet. They may not think you are old enough (That is for young people like me) or will grow out of it. Think its probably just a phase.

And sometimes it is. But sometimes it isn't.

Whatever you are feeling right now is who you are. If you change, then you change. But whatever you feel most comfortable with, or believe is what you are, you can be that identity, and anyone who speaks against it is wrong. Whatever you choose is who you are at the moment and that is all they need to know.

So there is something called squishes: Squishes are the most aromantics can feel. you could have the signs of a crush (wanting to impress, jealousy, always hanging around, etc.) but you do not want to date them. You could find them aesthetically pleasing and pretty, and you always want to be around them.

The flag: So there are two flags: there is the flag with green and grey stripes, and there is the one I have. (I'm not including the grey-romantic and other flags.) Here are the flags:

In case you can't read it:

1. Green: Is for aromantics, Yellow is for Lithromantics, Grey is for grey-aromatics, Black Is for demiromantics.

2. Green because it's the opposite of red which is the common romantic color, Yellow because yellow roses represent friendship, Orange because it's between yellow and red which is for grey-romantics, Black for Alloromantics that "reject traditional ideas of romance".

You may find when your friends talk about dating and relationships boring or confusing and wonder what the obsession over it was.

Being aromantic is not wanting to be in a relationship. You may not want to get married, have kids, date people, and not fall in love.

Being aromantic is like not wearing a shirt. When you put on a shirt you are in a relationship. (sometimes, you wear two shirts, which is Polyamorous.)

But being an aromantic, you don't need/wear a shirt, because you live alone, so why wear anything?

Living as Aromantic in a romantic world is really difficult when others' expectations for yourself to find love don't meet the bar where they are at because you don't want to be like others. Don't get me wrong, you may want to find love and get married, you may seek out a romance so you can feel that you fit in with the views of this judgemental world, and that's okay. People want to fit in, our brains are wired to be liked and we all want some belonging to this world.

If you have never been in a relationship before, I can relate and understand how lost you must feel because people just think you do not understand and will find the right person and you will fall out of this phase.

If you are someone who does not think they are Aromantic, please note that this is a real thing and there are Aromantics in the world. There isn't a percentage, but 1% of the world's population is Asexual, about 25% of that 1% (0.25%) of Asexuals are also Aromantic.

I have some analogies for you people that are trying to understand what it is like being an Aromantic:

- When you see someone pretty: It is like a sunset. You can see they are beautiful, but you don't want to date one.

-When your friends talk about their interests and who they think is 'hot': Imagine your least favorite subject being taught.

-When others fall in love/start to date: Imagine seeing that someone you don't know has committed suicide on the news. You do not understand why they would do that, But you know they probably did it because they were depressed, but you still can't understand. You know why they did it, But you don't at the same time. (Sorry that was hard to phrase.)

If you are someone who is trying to understand what it means and do not think you are an Aromantic: Please understand that we are not like this because we have never been asked out before. I, for example, have been asked out by a girl and boys before, and all the times I have said no. Not because I felt I was too young, but because I didn't understand why anyone would want to date, and I did not feel like being in a relationship.

I really hope this explanation has helped. If you still need more explanations, ask or look it up.