December 21, 2014
To the Girl That Loves Him Next,
Let him protect you. No matter how independent you are, he'll want to. Even if you say no, he'll silently watch over you. And it's okay to be silently grateful. He doesn't always need to be thanked. Say thank you when he holds the door when you're walking together (or even when you're not and he has to wait for you to walk down the hallway). Say thank you when he keeps that creepy guy at the mall away from you...even though he knows you're thankful.
He gets jealous beyond belief. Even if he's mad at you, and sees you talking to a guy friend, he'll make his presence known. He doesn't mean to get jealous, he just does.
If you text him and you're upset, he'll pick up on it and will try to call or Skype you. Don't reject the calls. It'll only make him worry even more. Allow him into your heart. Talk to him about what's making you cry. It kills him to see tears.
Disagree with him. He loves it. He doesn't want to date himself. Spark debate. Talk about how you think the world started and if you think heaven is real. He loves listening to oppositional views. He'll love the sparkle in your eye when he sees your passion come out.
Talk. Don't ask too many questions. Just talk. He'll love to just listen to your voice. Tell him about your childhood, about yesterday, about today, about your hopes for the future, about your dreams, and about your heart's desires.
Meet his family. They're all really close and he wants them to know you. Be friends with his mom. His dad is quiet, but he'll remember you. His sister will take time to warm up to you. Don't take it personally.
He cares more than he lets on. Don't be surprised when he texts you on Sunday morning how church was. Ask him how church was for him.
He's confident for the most part, but sometimes he does need to be reassured. Give him the reassurance. You don't have to kiss his butt, just tell him it's okay.
Most importantly, don't be afraid to argue with him. He's not a grudge-holder. It's impossible to stay mad at him. I know from experience.
If you can't be good to him, and can't deal with him after a bad game, or when he's just in a bad mood, leave. It's not worth wasting your time or his. He's probably in like with you. Not quite in love, but almost there. He's delicate when it comes to this kind of stuff. Be patient. Be kind.
Sincerely,
The Girl That Still Loves Him
